The V-Word

“So often times it happens, we all live our life in chains, and we never even know we have the key.” ~The Eagles, “Already Gone”

Today I realized that the weakest link in my positivity quest turns out to be in how I talk, which is not a small hurdle, given that I talk a lot. Now that I am on the positivity quest, everyone around me feels free to point out the negativity that flows freely out of...

The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes. ~William James

A positivity ratiois the number of positive events or thoughts you have compared with the number of negative ones. According to Dr. Barbara Fredrickson a positive event can be something as small as a feeling of gratitude or an attitude which is curious and wondering....

“Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity, and responsibility to give something back by becoming more.”- Anthony Robbins

The New Year began under the light of a blue moon, although I couldn’t see it as I drove down a dark freeway in the driving rain. I was trying to follow the lane markers when the car started to hydroplane. Then a light symbol showed up on my dash that was...

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think, we become.”– Buddha

We all have a biologically imposed hedonic set pointin our ability to be positive and happy. It isn’t surprising when you consider how many of our personality traits can be linked to our genetic code. The nature/nurture argument has clearly demonstrated that the environment of our...

One of my new favorite books on my nightstand is “Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction” by Debby Herbenick, As one of the most well respected sex educators in the country, Debby has answered thousands of questions about everything sexual from people across the country as the primary responder to literally thousands of questions at the Kinsey Institute. Because...

“It is said that desire is a product of the will, but the converse is in fact true: will is a product of desire.” -Denis Diderot

It seems as if everyone is talking about female desireor actually, the rampant lack of it, in the press lately. It is a conversation that happens often at my Good Clean Love office and in many ways is our raison d’etre. It was my own discouraging experience of female...

‘Great is the art of beginning, but greater is the art of ending.’ ~Lazarus Long

Holidays are challenging times for many people. Rather than a storehouse of loving memories, for many of us holidays serve as annual reminders of the dysfunction and pain that characterized family life. As unique as the stories are between families, the feelings of loneliness, disappointment and worthlessness...

“Man is a knot into which relationships are tied.” ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Life is made of moments of unraveling. There are good reasons everyday that things come undone, but perhaps none so painful as the un-doing of our most intimate relationships. It is easy to understand how living with the difficult emotions of disappointment, embarrassment and the irritation and resentment associated with...

Each month, Good Clean Love gathers insightful ideas and strategies from our readers on maintaining a sustainable relationship. This month as we honor Breast Cancer Awareness month, we are asking our readers to join us and share stories of how they healed the pain and loss associated with cancer and other kinds of serious illness.

What are the key strategies or ideas that helped you overcome this...