Good Clean Reads

Much of the art of love lives within our ability to access and expand our capacity for sexual desire and arousal. There is probably no more deeply vulnerable act of...

I am not sure if it is a primarily Western mentality that presumes that life will be easy, and as an extension it will require little effort. In fact, we belittle work as an encumbrance, instead of recognizing it for the value it brings to who we become as people. This phenomenon is true in many places in life, but none so much as in the world of relating.

I remain convinced that at the end of the day, at the end of our lives, the only thing we are going to count is the people we loved and those who loved us back. I have heard that the final moments of consciousness are a rush of memories, images that have been indelibly etched in our hearts where we connected, where we had let go and opened up to love, where we had been received and loved just as we are.

Sexual dissatisfaction is one of the top reasons cited when we leave our relationships. It is also one of life’s most worthy challenges to take on, not only for the meaning and pleasure it can bring to our relationships, but also for the very real health benefits that a satisfying sex life bestows on our well-being.

Necessity was the mother of invention when I began Good Clean Love. I reacted very badly to the petrochemical ingredients that make up the majority of intimacy products and, after nursing through four children, I had vaginal dryness all the time. The products that my doctor recommended only made a bad situation worse.

We believe we are making it better by shielding ourselves from our own pain. This is a fool’s errand, for the pain we refuse to feel and acknowledge doesn’t dissipate from our lacking attention, but rather collects in our heart center with a weightiness that we often cannot name or discern. So fearful are we, of the potential of a broken heart, that we inadvertently refuse to open our hearts at all. 

When our friends at Dame recently appeared on “Megyn Kelly TODAY” to talk about the pleasure gap, we knew the term had officially gone mainstream. And for good reason. The statistics on how often women reach orgasm compared to men are striking, especially in heterosexual relationships. And yet, to many women this news isn't all that surprising. Why is that? And what can we do to elevate and validate women's pleasure?

Did you know that June is LGBTQ Pride Month? Pride is celebrated in June due to the Stonewall Riots that happened in June of 1969 when the police raided the Stonewall Inn—a New York City gay club. This marked history’s first major protest for homosexual equal rights.

There are dozens of documented studies that show how meditating changes your physical, mental and emotional well-being. People who meditate feel happier and are less depressed and anxious. Mediation also...