Good Clean Reads

The awakening is real. The time of concealment is over. And it's not just all those pussy hats making the rounds during the 2^nd National Women’s March, or the unprecedented number of women running for office, or the relentless outing of formerly powerful men who used their positions to sexually violate others. The real news is how the conversation is being extended to discuss what has heretofore been off limits...

I believe the most generous thing we can offer anyone is our undivided attention. With the holiday season upon us, it is a great time to reconsider what matters most in our gift-giving rituals. Let's dig into three simple ways to bring your full presence to those you love. 

“Healing is a matter of time, but it is sometimes also a matter of opportunity.” – Hippocrates

I spent five years writing a book about how to make sex work in your life, but pretty much since its publication, almost all of the conversations I have are about the sex that permeates our lives that doesn’twork. The unfolding revelations about rampant sexual abuses began with the brave and bold and...

“The roots of all goodness lie in the soil of appreciation for goodness.” – Dalai Lama

I once had a friend who for many years taught me volumes about gratitude, while also teaching me quite a bit about my own capacity for envy. At first glance, it may have been her inherited wealthy lifestyle or seemingly effortless marriage, or her devoted relationships with her loving mother and sister… There...

“Speak your mind, even if your voice shakes.” Maggie Kuhn

What remains unsaid in us remains alive. It is the trauma that we cannot acknowledge that burrows deeper inward, sapping our ability to trust ourselves as well as our capacity to connect to others. And among the traumas we experience, sexual abuses are one of the most potent in the ways that it imprints on our memory. This is why Beverly...

“I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it.” Evelyn Beatrice Hall

Last night I had a book reading for Sex that Works. It was a small gathering as it is really hard to get people out of their cozy homes on a rainy Sundayevening. But inviting people who know me through social media isn’t an option to get the word out either – Facebook’s Zero Tolerance policy...

“Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.”  George Bernard Shaw

The day I met my creative designer, the first question he asked me was: “can you change?” I paused for a moment, not really knowing what he was wanting me to change and said, “yes, I think I can change.” That was the beginning of the Good Clean Love design as it lives today. It is also a moment I often go back to in...