Good Clean Reads

By Dr Tammy Nelson

Many couples have trouble finding the energy to keep up an exciting sex life. Stress, exhaustion, kids, boredom – they can all lead to lack of enthusiasm in the bedroom. One way to recharge your love life is to make a date for sex. Carve out a time for sex in your schedule and put it on your calendar. Make it the same day or night every week. Does that sound spontaneous? Not...

“Orgasm is what happens when the body takes over.” -Betty Dodson

Our orgasmic potential begins with our capacity and curiosity to explore our arousal mechanism. Recent studies have actually demonstrated that working with your physical arousal response can actually instigate sexual desire, rather than the reverse of waiting for desire to jumpstart arousal. This is heartening news because tapping...

I am at the Bioneers conference, which starts tomorrow and runs through the weekend. On Sunday afternoon, I will find myself on a huge stage presenting Love That Works to hundreds of people. I am sure thousands more will be watching via webcast. It is a dream come true, but also the beginning of a different career, a career I’ve envisioned for several years. Bioneers is a remarkable venue attended...

I am still thinking about the premature death of Steve Jobs. Last night I watched the commencement address he gave to Stanford graduates in 2005. He said that every day he asked himself: “If this were my last day, is this what I would be doing?” This was a real thought for him at the time; because he had just been given what he thought at the time was a free pass from his first cancer diagnosis.

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Every time I get into an argument with my partner it gets ugly. It has gotten so that I don’t want to bring up anything that might start a disagreement because I don’t want to risk the abuse and old baggage that gets dragged through the mud again. It’s almost like nothing is ever forgotten, just saved up for the next argument. It is making me avoid conversation at all, and it seems that the more...

by Tina Tessina

Learning to be patient and remain calm reduces and relieves stress and worry. Cultivating patience is really learning impulse control– it’s an issue in self control. You can learn how to do “emotional maintenance” and shake off stress, keep on track of what you want to do, and let go of frustration when something is getting to you. Patience is learning how to wait until you’ve...

by Elizabeth Spannuth

My step-dad has always been a bit loopy. When I was growing up he was moody and prone to episodes of what I now recognize as depression. Strangely, as he has aged, he has fallen out of that pattern. Sometimes it seems as though he is a completely different person, so much so that occasionally I find myself asking “who is this supportive and positive person?”

But old patterns...

I have been married for over 10 years, but my wife and I have an increasingly hard time communicating about sex. She seems fine about it, but I am not. I always thought we would grow sexually over time, but our sex life just seems to get smaller. She has so many dislikes, like receiving oral, she says it will never happen. I just don’t understand why. Could you help me/us. I’m new to this getting...

by Dr. Tammy Nelson

Is it normal to find sex online?  In our current technological culture we use cyber connections to create all of our relationships.  We use the internet to manage our social lives, meet new people, and develop both emotional partnerships.  Why wouldn’t we find sexual relationships online too?

Today the opportunity to use hand held devices, texting, IM’ing and email as ways to...