“Love isn’t an emotion or an instinct–it’s an art.” -Mae West

Done with conviction and commitment, the way great artists approach their masterpieces, our loving relationships sculpt us into the highest and best form of ourselves. This is their only job and their highest purpose. Through love we entrust our loved ones to mirror and elicit from us the aspirations and values that we have expressed...

What does sex mean to you? While no one else can provide an intrinsic meaning to the concept or practice of sexuality we all struggle with defining this most basic and integral part of ourselves.

“We are the recorders and reporters of facts – not the judges of the behaviors we describe.”-Alfred Kinsey

What does sex mean to you? While no one else can provide an intrinsic meaning to the concept...

“Lack of activity destroys the good condition of every human being, while movement and methodical physical exercise save it and preserve it. “ ~Plato

The line of positivity lives somewhere between the ability to set goals and to the ability to let things be as they are. The subtle yet precise balance point lets things happen for you with grace. It takes courage to envision a better world...

“Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” -Robert Heinlein

It turns out that showing up for your partner in the happy moments of life might create more staying power in your relationship than being a reliable support in hard times. While we all need someone at our back when things are rough, it is actually having someone truly celebrate our...

“Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.” -Josh Billings

I have never been very good at defining boundaries in life. The resources of time and energy were never something that I measured in terms of my ability to give or not. I remember being shocked when an acquaintance once told me that they knew they could never have enough...

“Even if you have made mistakes, there is always another chance for you. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down.” -Mary Pickford

Now that I have managed to really listen to the words I am saying, the next logical step is to listen one step back to the thoughts. Not saying the negative thing is an...

“To fall in love is easy, even to remain in it is not difficult; our human loneliness is cause enough.But it is a hard quest worth making to find a comrade through whose steady presence one becomes steadily the person one desires to be.” -Anna Louise Strong

It is that time of year again when we are all faced with finding the perfect gift for someone we love. With the economic turmoil and its...

‘All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.’ -Buddha

Life can throw a punch. Things happen. Relationships with people we love can challenge our ability to love. How we think about what is difficult in our lives makes them what they are. Negative emotions are a slippery slope for many of us. An offhanded comment in a small dispute can...

‘Sexual love is the most stupendous fact of the universe, and the most magical mystery our poor blind senses know.’ –Amy Lowell

Wealth, even extreme wealth cannot purchase the most magical, mysterious life-changing sex on the planet. On the other hand,the only way to discover and cultivate this most coveted of human experiences is to be ready to devote your entire life to the object of your love...

Flying out of New Orleans, I am seated next to a gynecologist that I didn’t meet at the ACOG yearly meeting. I share my story about love products and my work about making love sustainable. He shares his story about how limited his time with each patient is and how awkward it is to discuss sexual intimacy. We talk about how little education and language we are given in our childhood and youth to...

Recently, after I reviewed another book on greening the fashion world, the publisher sent me a note saying that she had seen my site and was going send me another new book she thought I would be interested in: Sex Secrets of Porn Stars.

I wondered if she had actually read anything on my site.

After years of attending the big Vegas “Sex Shows,” it had become increasingly clear that my corporate...

I lost this week. After months of preparation, documents and samples changing hands, interviews scheduled and rescheduled, the grant committee at the Eileen Fischer program for Women choose five inspiring women run companies to recognize and reward with $10,000. Although we made it to the finalist round, we were not among the lucky winners. We were edged out by the Goat Patrol, a company that uses...