“The simple act of being completely attentive and present… is an act of love, and it fosters unshakeable well-being.”  Sharon Salzberg

Mother’s Day has always been a difficult holiday for me. As a daughter who struggled most of my life with my mother’s lackluster attention for me and as a mother who overcompensated for all the things I longed for in childhood but was often overwhelming for my own...

“If bread is the first necessity of life, recreation is a close second” – Edward Bellamy

I was turning 33 the year that I could not get pregnant. My previous pregnancies were not first timers but having unprotected sex whenever we wanted made the trying more fun. But this time, by the 8^th or 9^thcycle we had tried everything that had worked before – herbal teas, lying in bed with my legs up the...

“There is more to life than increasing its speed.”  Mohandas K. Gandhi

As I write this advice about love, I am flying over the pacific on my way home from my favorite place on earth, Hawaii. It is the only place that I have ever traveled that I never feel ready to leave. Maybe it’s because I more readily can find a slower rhythm of life here in the tropics, or because the days start so much later...

“The way you make love is the way God will be with you.”  Rumi

One of the great mysteries in life is the way in which our sexual encounters, especially the most memorable and passionate ones, live outside of normal space and time. It’s almost as if time stands still and bends itself around the encounter. Minutes that fly by in a moment seem to last hours and hours. It is in fact this space that we...

“If you want to conquer the anxiety of life, live in the moment, live in the breath.”  Amit Ray

I am befriending my anxiety, as it goes with me everywhere these days. Happy to report that I have mostly given up the futile fight against it and I am finished with all of my subversive techniques to flee. Instead, I have been giving anxiety my full attention, which it turns out, is easier said than...

Whether its their breast self-check mobile app or trendy hashtags, Keep A Breast Foundation proves itself to be an innovative organization that keeps youth informed and active in leading a preventative lifestyle.

“Joy is being willing for things to be as they are.”  -Charlotte Joko Beck

I am not much of a planner any more. Even as my tiny homespun love company has finally moved into the growth stage of being able to track and predict sales data, I still balk at making plans. For most of my adult life, I have witnessed my best laid plans for how things will go, from the dozens of business plans I have...

“Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes. Because for those who love with heart and soul there is no such thing as separation.”
― Rumi

The old saying that “time waits for no one” is why learning the art of letting go and holding on matter so much. Increasingly, I have the sensation that life is passing me by, days feel like they pass by in ten minutes and my Mondays become Fridays in...

Maybe you think you need a vacation. Maybe you think you need certain kinds of food, or a certain amount of sleep, or certain clothes, or certain makeup, or certain books or friends or likes. Maybe you think you need a better cell phone or job or spouse in order to be happy.

Actually, there are just two things, beyond the necessities, that you need in order to be happy: you need patience, and you...

“So she thoroughly taught him that one cannot take pleasure without giving pleasure, and that every gesture, every caress, every touch, every glance, every last bit of the body has its secret, which brings happiness to the person who knows how to wake it…” -Herman Hesse

Here is the sad truth about sex in many long-term partnerships; it is either the glue that keeps the relationship strong or the...

When it’s only you who takes your pants off at night, genital hygiene can seem like a big waste of time — because who’s going to know? Having another person to clean up for can be incredibly motivating, especially when that other person’s tongue might end up between your thighs. (Seethis post if you need a reminder of how intricate pre-sex rituals can get.) But when there isn’t anyone...

This isn’tone of those articles that tells you what to eat, or what not to eat, for better sex — there’s already plenty of that on the internet. Instead, this article will explore a few ways our bodies interact with our food, and how these interactions might manifest as more or less interest in sex.

Champions of the Bland

The Victorian era was not a good time for anyone with a sex drive....