The V-Word

Authentic sexual freedom means taking responsibility for our own sexual needs. It means moving beyond sexual anxiety and the erotic damage we may have experienced through our early mistakes and...

 “You must all, somewhere deep in your hearts, believe that you have a special beauty that is like no other and that is so valuable that you must not abandon...

“The secret to happiness is freedom… And the secret to freedom is courage.” -Thucydides   Fear is the driver for many people’s sexual and erotic lives. One of Freud’s students, Otto...

The data on our collective mental health is not good. Teen depression and suicide rates have never been this high. Likewise, the drug overdose rates are also unprecedented. The traumas...

Discovering your sexual self is a normal and exciting experience that can occur at any time and at any age. 

“Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.” -Josh Billings

I have never been very good at defining boundaries in life. The resources of time and energy were never something that I measured in terms of my ability to give or not. I remember being shocked when an acquaintance once told me that they knew they could never have enough...

Here’s the thing to know about love, sometimes it feels great, like a sunny day in the Northwest after 26 days of rain, but sometimes it feels like the early stages of flu- unsettled, achy, loss of appetite. Ok, well maybe not as bad as the flu, but love lives can be irritating, like an insect bite that keeps itching. This is good to know about love because it allows you to have reasonable...