by Wendy Strgar December 18, 2006
Many years ago, a friend gave me a small article entitled “Learn to Rest.” I am happy to offer you a short segment here for your consideration as the last frenzied days of holiday preparation move us ever more quickly to action.
“In response to the question – What is worth doing and what is worth having? I would like to say simply this. It is worth doing nothing and having a rest; in spite of all the difficulty it may cause, you must rest. Otherwise you will become RESTLESS! I believe the world is sick with exhaustion and dying of restlessness. While it is true that believe the world is sick with exhaustion and dying of restlessness. While it is true that periods of weariness help the spirit to grow, the prolonged, ongoing state of fatigue, to which our world seems to be rapidly adapting, is ultimately soul-destroying. The ecology of evil flourishes and love cannot take root in this sad situation. Tiredness is one of our strongest, most noble and instructive feelings. It is an important aspect of conscience and must be heeded or else we will not survive. When you are tired you MUST rest like the trees and animals do…” -Michael Leunig
Offer to take a nap with someone you love. Just lie down and listen to the silence, drift off to sleep with the scent of someone dear nearby. I guarantee there is little out there at the mall that you will remember nearly as well as this sweet time standing still.
For this holiday season, feel your noble tiredness. Experience the dark, cold stillness of the world as our ancestors did before they invented Christmas lights, sleep more. I can guarantee you that offering this part of your psyche space with a generous heart will repay you and those you love with a depth of caring and understanding that is simply not available at the store. I am going to take my own advice too. Sweet dreams.
by Wendy Strgar May 22, 2018
There is no time like long summer nights to cultivate our uniquely, profoundly human capacity for pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. Our pleasure response transforms our relationship to each other and even to life itself. Focusing on pleasure not only changes how we see our opportunities for intimate connection, but also invites us into a deeper relationship with our erotic soul.
by Wendy Strgar May 17, 2018
It becomes hard to trust your own thinking when nothing seems to be working. The space between how I thought it would go and how it is going seems to widen in front of my eyes. Maybe most difficult of all is how often the undesirable outcomes around us spill over into our relationships, both at home and at work. An errant comment too easily turns into an argument. I become blind to my impact on people around me, caught up in the unresolved problems surrounding me. During times like these, we often underestimate the power of the choices we make and how it can create a path back towards what’s working or down the slippery slope of self-destruction, which my husband affectionately calls “flirting with the gutter.”
Here is my short list to making it better when it isn’t working at all. Each one helps you do the next one, so start at the beginning and work your way down.
by Wendy Strgar May 03, 2018