The V-Word

“Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.” -The Dalai Lama XIV

It is an odd and painful irony that often just as things are really coming together successfully in life, we often lose touch with the love that had inspired us to get there. We expect just the opposite. In our longings for whatever we aspire to, we believe wholeheartedly that achieving our dreams and...

Blind positivity is not really that positive. In fact, if there is any single overarching confusion about how positivity science works, it is in the mistaken belief that one should hold positive beliefs all the time, even when things are painful and challenging. This kind of positivity is related closely to the magical thinking that is promoted by trainers who psyche you up to walk on hot coals....

I am trying to learn how to stop feeling my children’s feelings. Today at the end of a challenging basketball game, which our side lost, I was working vigilantly to bear witness to my daughter’s frustration without feeling it. When I mentioned that I was trying to stop feeling my daughter’s feelings to another mother, she said: “Good luck- let me know how that works for you…” I am not alone in...

Discover a healthy and inspiring new way to view yourself and your life through Kristin Neff’sgroundbreaking research on self compassion. Find a new stability with your sense of self by making small but significant shifts in how you think about self esteem and the courage to care for yourself when facing challenging times. Learning to offer compassion to yourself is one of the ground breaking...

“One day a monk spoke bitterly to the Buddha. All he wanted to talk about was the unbearable sorrows of the world. The Buddha remained silent while the monk talked, then a faint smile appeared on his face. He pointed to the ground below his feet and said,“On this earth I have attained awakening.” -Buddhist Mondo

It is easy to become bitter by the weight of so much unresolved sorrow in life. I...

Self-compassion can actually enhance all of your relationship. Dr. Kristen Neff, author of “Self-Compassion – Stop Beating Yourself Up” shares techniques for cultivating a practice of self-compassion. TheOpeningDoor.org to listen to the full interview Saturday.

“The chains of habits are generally too small to be felt until they are too strong to be broken.”   -Samuel Johnson

To a large extent we are what we do every day. To an even larger extent, the human experience is a habitual one. This is why it isn’t that surprising that for the majority of us, even our thoughts are habitual. I have read that as much as 95% of our some 60,000 thoughts that fill our...

Start the new year by Reclaiming your Sexual Self. Devi Ward is a true tantric with the devotion and experience to guide you back to a comforting and passionate relationship to your erotic self. She has mastered the complexity of tantra and is able to communicate it effectively and clearly into The 5 Elements of Sensual Self-Expression and TantraFit, which will help you reclaim your full sexual...