Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

I have been with the same partner for many years and have tried to make our relationship work, but it seems like the longer I am with him the worse I feel about myself. He makes fun of me when I say what I think and then thinks I am ridiculous because “I can’t take a joke.” We used to have some good conversations but now I can almost never find the right time to talk about anything. I don’t want...

“We’re perfectly ordinary people except that we like kinky sex.” -Susan Wright, spokesperson for National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

Sexual freedom is on the rise. Just this past week, several notable Republican law makers came out in favor of the right for marriage equality regardless of gender preferences. The interesting thing about change is how after it is done, we can hardly remember how...

Often what we think will make us happy doesn’t and what we don’t think will make us happy does. Uncover the faulty thinking and the misconceptions about where our true happiness lies with author of the Myths of Happiness, Sonja Lyubomirsky Phd. Her research insights will expand your view of happiness and help you recognize how even challenging life situations can translate into surprising...

“I know that when a door closes, it can feel like all doors are closing. A rejection letter can feel like everyone will reject us. But a closed door leads to clarity. It’s really an arrow. Because we cannot go through that door, we will go somewhere else. That somewhere else is your true life.”  –Tama Kieves

Rejection might well be the source of our greatest fear and anguish and for good reason....

Sonja Lyubomirsky, professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside, discusses happiness and material reality.

Visit TheOpeningDoor.org to listen to the full interview Saturday.

Ian Kerner is a New York Times best-selling author of numerous books including She Comes First, Passionista and The Big Fun Sexy Sex Book amongst others. To read more about Ian’s print books, please click here. Ian appears frequently on the TODAY Show and also writes a weekly sex column for CNN. Ian is certified as a sexuality counselor by AASECT (the American Association of Sexuality Educators,...

I wrote this piece years ago, and it still feels like the truth to me.

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Here’s the thing to know about love. Sometimes it feels great, like a sunny day in the Northwest after 26 days of rain; but sometimes it feels like the early stages of flu- unsettled, achy, and a loss of appetite. Okay, well maybe not as bad as the flu, but love lives can be irritating, like an insect bite that keeps...

“When in doubt who will win, be neutral.” –Swiss Proverb

One of my husband’s most reliable responses to my often high level of emotionality is: “Can you just be neutral?” He is a psychiatrist, so he has a lot more practice at finding a neutral objective view. Yet, even before we each chose our respective professions, he would often find his way back to center with more ease than I. Over the...

Dr. Ian Kerner, certified as a sexuality counselor and a New York Times best-selling author, educates us on the arousal-desire connection

TheOpeningDoor.org to listen to the full interview Saturday.