The V-Word

When it’s only you who takes your pants off at night, genital hygiene can seem like a big waste of time — because who’s going to know? Having another person to clean up for can be incredibly motivating, especially when that other person’s tongue might end up between your thighs. (See this post if you need a reminder of how intricate pre-sex rituals can get.) But when there isn’t anyone...

Last week we learned how to integrate spiritual practices into our relationship.

According to nearly all of the world’s major spiritual traditions, the ultimate attainment in life is to learn that we are all One. But, to most people on any normal day, what does that even mean? We all walk around with our own hurts, pains, joys and triumphs. As much as we’d like to join with others, we feel (and...

We write a lot about pleasure here at Making Love Sustainable. We write about how to find more joy in your life, and we especially write about love and sex, which are two of the greatest sources of pleasure available to people.

At least to most people. What if you weren’t able to experience pleasure? You’d do something that’s supposed to feel good, and — nothing. It could turn a lot of your life...

“And the end of all our exploring

Will be to arrive where we started

And know the place for the first time.”  -T.S.  Eliot

Sexual boredom and the collateral damage of intimate isolation top the list when it comes to the cited explanations for cheating and relationship endings. Somehow sexual boredom often gets linked to sex positions, thinking if we change up how we do it, we would find the...

Last week we discussed the idea of using your relationship as a daily spiritual practice.

At the root of all the major religions and spiritual practices are principles like love, faith, compassion, and trust. They aim to teach humanity about how to coexist in a world that is bigger than any one individual.

Victor Hugo once said this of love: “To love another person is to see the face of God.”

Wh...

That's what Joseph Goldstein kept telling us, though it was hard to believe in the quiet of the meditation center, where, for three months, life was so similar from day to day I could easily confuse Thursday with Friday, Friday with Saturday. And it is still hard to believe, out here in "the world," where I work and buy food and prepare it with my partner; where we have our routines, habits, small surprises: something unexpected in the mail, a friend who passes through town.

Maybe you’ve heard the news that there might be another planet in the solar system. I don’t mean Pluto gets to be a planet again; this is a completely different planet, a big one actually (about the size of Neptune), but so far away that nobody has seen it before. Some reporters are calling it “Planet X,” but it doesn’t have a real name yet, and won’t until they confirm that it exists. Even now...

“Most people have no idea how good their body is designed to feel.”  -Kevin Trudeau

I couldn’t sleep on my right side anymore. In yoga my right knee couldn’t do yoga poses anymore. I tried therapies of all kinds, I bought a new mattress… no relief. Finally I went to a physical therapist and was diagnosed with gluteal amnesia, which is apparently a common syndrome, in which the muscles of the butt...

This isn’t one of those articles that tells you what to eat, or what not to eat, for better sex — there’s already plenty of that on the internet. Instead, this article will explore a few ways our bodies interact with our food, and how these interactions might manifest as more or less interest in sex.

Champions of the Bland

The Victorian era was not a good time for anyone with a sex drive....