by Good Clean Love Staff February 12, 2016
When you consider its history, it is ironic what Valentine’s Day has become. As early as 44 BCE, the Romans hosted a fertility celebration called Lupercalia, in which they sacrificed animals and procreated. Romantic? I’m not so sure. It wasn’t until the 14th century that Valentine’s Day as we know it really started to emerge. And no, it wasn’t named after just one saint; in fact, it was named after three.
These days, Hallmark tries to make certain that we have high expectations for Valentine’s Day. No matter how long you and your sweetheart have been together, if you don’t have a fancy dinner reservation for two complete with flowers, chocolates, and of course, a Hallmark card, you’re not doing the holiday right.
I’ve eschewed this portrayal of Valentine’s Day for years for several reasons:
This year, I urge you to take back Valentine’s Day. And no, I don’t mean back to the Lupercalia celebrations of ancient Roman times (unless you’re into all that stuff)… No, what I mean is instead of doing the same-old, use the holiday to do something new with your partner. Regardless of how long you’ve been together, you can ALWAYS learn something new about each other. Plus, studies show that couples that do new things together have happier relationships.
Ok, so sure, this is last minute, but if you’re not sure how to approach the holiday differently, here are some ideas:
No matter what you decide to do this holiday (and if that’s nothing, that’s fine, too), make it your own. That way, you both are much more likely to have fun and be waaaay less stressed about the whole thing. Plus, for couples that consider their relationships new, it turns the holiday into less of a factory for making stress and more into a regular date night in which each person can learn more about their new paramour.
Of course, if you’re single, you can still celebrate Valentine’s Day. In fact, it can be a wonderful way to make time for some self-care: have your hair cut, go out for a delicious meal, spend time outdoors, make a list of the activities that brought you joy as a child and trying doing some of them again.
So, moral of the story is: Valentine’s Day can be whatever you want it to be. No matter what happens, have a good time, and remember: it’s just another day. Yes, maybe over-hyped but a good opportunity to get to know your partner (or yourself) even better.
by Good Clean Love Staff April 18, 2019
Birth control and lubricant delivered straight to your door? The future really is female! At least, that’s what we’re beginning to think after collaborating with the incredibly innovative staff at The Pill Club.
by Kaylee Dye April 04, 2019
by Good Clean Love Staff March 19, 2019
The percentage of people impacted by infidelity is somewhere between 30 and 60% of all married couples, depending on the study cited. More interesting than the differences between men and women are the different patterns of infidelity for each gender. Cheating men are more likely than cheating women to have an affair with someone younger than their spouse. On the other hand, cheating women are more likely than cheating men to have an affair with someone better educated than their current spouse.