by Good Clean Love Staff February 12, 2016
When you consider its history, it is ironic what Valentine’s Day has become. As early as 44 BCE, the Romans hosted a fertility celebration called Lupercalia, in which they sacrificed animals and procreated. Romantic? I’m not so sure. It wasn’t until the 14th century that Valentine’s Day as we know it really started to emerge. And no, it wasn’t named after just one saint; in fact, it was named after three.
These days, Hallmark tries to make certain that we have high expectations for Valentine’s Day. No matter how long you and your sweetheart have been together, if you don’t have a fancy dinner reservation for two complete with flowers, chocolates, and of course, a Hallmark card, you’re not doing the holiday right.
I’ve eschewed this portrayal of Valentine’s Day for years for several reasons:
This year, I urge you to take back Valentine’s Day. And no, I don’t mean back to the Lupercalia celebrations of ancient Roman times (unless you’re into all that stuff)… No, what I mean is instead of doing the same-old, use the holiday to do something new with your partner. Regardless of how long you’ve been together, you can ALWAYS learn something new about each other. Plus, studies show that couples that do new things together have happier relationships.
Ok, so sure, this is last minute, but if you’re not sure how to approach the holiday differently, here are some ideas:
No matter what you decide to do this holiday (and if that’s nothing, that’s fine, too), make it your own. That way, you both are much more likely to have fun and be waaaay less stressed about the whole thing. Plus, for couples that consider their relationships new, it turns the holiday into less of a factory for making stress and more into a regular date night in which each person can learn more about their new paramour.
Of course, if you’re single, you can still celebrate Valentine’s Day. In fact, it can be a wonderful way to make time for some self-care: have your hair cut, go out for a delicious meal, spend time outdoors, make a list of the activities that brought you joy as a child and trying doing some of them again.
So, moral of the story is: Valentine’s Day can be whatever you want it to be. No matter what happens, have a good time, and remember: it’s just another day. Yes, maybe over-hyped but a good opportunity to get to know your partner (or yourself) even better.
by Marilyn Brady July 26, 2018
by Meghan Morgavan July 12, 2018
by Marilyn Brady June 26, 2018
Many women are unaware of the risks of bacterial vaginosis (BV), and many don’t even know what it is. BV is a condition that occurs when there is too much of certain bacteria in the vagina. This changes the normal balance of bacteria in the vagina. BV is one of the most common vaginal infections.
Here are three things you may not know about BV: