by Wendy Strgar December 31, 2006
Here is a thought to use as a north star for this new year. It is one that helps me know what side I am fighting for and, whether right or wrong, I am moving further away or closer to a love that can sustain my life.
Moving towards love is not as simple as it sounds. The reason all the greatest teachers that have ever lived on the planet focused on love as their main message is not because it is easy. We are hardwired to survive, to self defend and self protect and we are mostly inexperienced at opening up to pain. This makes the road to loving often the road less traveled. The more we walk away from it, the more difficult it is to stay on the path the next time.
Forgiveness and humility are basic prerequisites to loving over time. The basic nature of love exists in a willingness to open your heart. Frequently, because we are human, this open heart is hurt. This, sadly is the nature of the imperfect love that we can manage here on earth. As pitiable as this may seem, it is without doubt better than its alternative.
Our hearts are strong, and they grow and become stronger through the act of forgiveness. True forgiveness is the kind that washes you clean, where the letting go is so complete that you can look at the perpetrator of your hurt with no memory of the pain. A truly rare and remarkable experience that makes you believe in love.
So if you’re going to make a resolution this year, as crazy as it may seem, make it for love. Be willing to drop into forgiveness so completely that you won’t recognize yourself when you come up for air. Be brave for love, it will probably hurt, but not nearly as much as walking away.
by Wendy Strgar October 25, 2018
“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.” –Antoine de Saint-Exupery
We believe we are making it better by shielding ourselves from our own pain. This is a fool’s errand, for the pain we refuse to feel and acknowledge doesn’t dissipate from our lacking attention, but rather collects in our heart center with a weightiness that we often cannot name or discern. So fearful are we, of the potential of a broken heart, that we inadvertently refuse to open our hearts at all.
by Wendy Strgar September 13, 2018