This week marks the official launch of my new book, “Sex that Works-An Intimate Guide to Awakening Your Erotic Life.” I have often said that if we could only fix one problem in our life and it was sex- we would by default, fix all of the others. What most...
“Masturbation: the primary sexual activity of mankind. In the nineteenth century it was a disease; in the twentieth, it’s a cure.” — Thomas Szasz
Although there is no chapter dedicated specifically to effects of masturbation on health in my new book Sex that Works, I refer often to why self-pleasure is so essential to moving towards a healthy relationship with pleasure itself. In fact, sex...
“Kisses are a better fate than wisdom.” e.e. cummings
Days are becoming balmy, daylight lasts into evening, and the flowering trees are now awash in color. If ever there was a moment that the kiss was invented somehow I feel sure it was when the world awoke to springtime. In fact, the earliest recorded kisses date back to India in 1500 BC where early Vedic scriptures describe lovers “setting...
“The pleasure of living and the pleasure of the orgasm are identical. Extreme orgasm anxiety forms the basis of the general fear of life.” - Wilhelm Reich
Some of my most vivid memories of my early sex life are not of the satisfying post coitus elated release, but of their opposite. It is hard to forget the many times when sex was more a path of frustration than pleasure; when I was still figuring...
The New Year is a good time to re-think our ideas about pleasure. In our culture, so focused on instant gratification, it is easy to lose sight of what creates a long-lasting and deeply healing experience of pleasure. While instant gratification does feed our brains a dopamine response to constantly want more, the...
Make It Good is a sexual health and wellness initiative meant to address difficult topics in modern day relationships revolving around three core issues: equal pleasure, consent and the use of healthy ingredients in intimacy products.
The Make It Good public awareness campaign inspires young adults to foster fulfilling relationships that empower themselves and their partners because life is fueled...
There are many good reasons to slow sex down but without question, the most meaningful is that we can bridge the orgasm gap through extending lovemaking time. The orgasm gap is the misunderstood and often overlooked time span that most women require to turn on...
“We think fast food is equivalent to pornography, nutritionally speaking.” -Steve Elber
As a culture, our diet often suffers from the overwhelming demands of schedule and time constraints; we pick up food on the run and call it a meal. Even when we take the time to prepare a meal at home, we often eat it in front of a screen, eating quickly and mindlessly. Taking the time to taste our food is a...
Anatomically the breasts shield our heart. Our breasts are far more than the sexualized female adornments that get most of the attention. They are truly amazing organs, hardwired to some of our deepest sensual response, and designed to nourish and sustain new life.
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While every season brings a certain loveliness for the home, gatherings, and the birds and bees, we’d like to give a pleasant welcome to the Fall romance that comes with the Autumn season and that extra something it adds to love in the air.
As Fall, a proclaimed favorite season, starts appearing on social media timelines, or makes its way to the center of small talk conversations about brisker...
According to recent research American heterosexual sex lasts only7.3 minutes on average. What is the rush, people? If we compare sex to dining, Americans are the sexual equivalent of a fast food joint- an ‘In-N-Out’, if you will.
Sex, like food, is supposed to be savored. It should be a four course meal. You don’t just walk into a fancy restaurant and demand your main course. You take your time....
“Ultimately, the desire for a deeper human connection always wins out, for both men and women.” Hanna Rosin
One of the questions I’ve been asked a lot lately is, why are so many millennials having bad sex? Which for the record, is not just true about millennials. However, it is alarming to hear that 44% of women between 16-21 to report anxiety, pain and little interest when it comes to sex,21% of...
