The V-Word

Our feelings are like weather patterns. They are changeable and act on the environment with great power. They inform and distract with their intensity. They reflect the nature of the moment with great accuracy. Our ability to experience and share our feelings in meaningful ways is one of the profound marks of our humanity.

Yet feelings are, for many people, a locked box; an experience that...

Question:

How many times per week does a couple have sex if they have a healthy sex life? I have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years, and we have sex at least 3 times a week. He does not fel like that is enough… sometimes it is more than 3 times. I am not as sexually driven as he is. I am a woman, 41. I feel like what sex drive I do have, he is diminishing when he expects me to want to have...

“Stimulus is the missing third dimension in all theories of motivation.” -David Freemantle

With all the discussion of economic crisis going on today, there is little recognition of the even deeper poverty of heart which like a creeping malaise impacts the very core of our well being, our life and the meaning we derive from it. Recent studies by the National Opinion Research Center at the...

“I am convinced, both by faith and experience, that to maintain one’s self on the earth is not a hardship but a pastime- if we live simply and wisely.” -Henry David Thoreau

Franklin D. Roosevelt is most famous for his statement “there is nothing to fear...

“Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit.” -Peter Ustinov

Sexual healing is only possible through forgiveness. The injuries and betrayals that we sustain as we negotiate this most mysterious human interaction of sexuality...

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you.” Unknown

Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past. It is the path of redemption where life can move forward from the present moment, where the past fades with memory...

I have been fascinated by sex workers since I learned that the most ostracizing act that prostitutes can commit is finding pleasure in the act. The world of sex workers is a huge underground mega structure that encompasses millions of lives. It makes more money than the entire 10 largest technology companies combined, (think Microsoft, Google, and Amazon). On the internet alone sex work and...

Hope you enjoy this new series of posts: Loveology Minutes with brief thoughts on how to keep your heart open and your love sustainable. Send in other great ideas or quotes and we will highlight them…

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage..” -Anais Nin

Nowhere is this thought more true than in our capacity to find love in response to life. Opening our heart to the range of...

I was recently introduced to one of the prima sex bloggers. A mutual friend sent her some of my writing and she was intrigued. I hadn’t looked at her blog until today when she offered me a handout that she had written about how to become the sex blogger you have always dreamed of. She mentioned some of the bloggers that she liked to read also, so I went exploring and I realized again, why I write about intimate love and sex the way I do and am not really a fit in the sex blog category. The names of...