Good Clean Reads

I remain convinced that at the end of the day, at the end of our lives, the only thing we are going to count is the people we loved and those who loved us back. I have heard that the final moments of consciousness are a rush of memories, images that have been indelibly etched in our hearts where we connected, where we had let go and opened up to love, where we had been received and loved just as we are.

Sexual dissatisfaction is one of the top reasons cited when we leave our relationships. It is also one of life’s most worthy challenges to take on, not only for the meaning and pleasure it can bring to our relationships, but also for the very real health benefits that a satisfying sex life bestows on our well-being.

The most unique and universal expressions of our humanity occur in the moments when we are most keyed in to our animal nature. Whether curled up in our sleep beside our lover or child, or ravaging a perfectly prepared meal, our most basic human needs show us as the animals we are.

The percentage of people impacted by infidelity is somewhere between 30 and 60% of all married couples, depending on the study cited. More interesting than the differences between men and women are the different patterns of infidelity for each gender. Cheating men are more likely than cheating women to have an affair with someone younger than their spouse. On the other hand, cheating women are more likely than cheating men to have an affair with someone better educated than their current spouse.

Our sense of smell is ancient and the source of our most powerful emotional memories. It is also the primal sensory pathway to sexual attraction, making it a key sensory experience in intimacy. And yet, we often give little attention to all that our sense of smell can evoke, in part because we have so little vocabulary for scent. Often we're limited to “it smells like…” and delineated only between pleasant and unpleasant. But, the truth is that the world of scent cognition that so often goes unrecognized actually colors all of our interactions – especially our most intimate moments.  And there...

Most people are unaware that Valentine’s Day is one of the biggest break-up holidays of the year. It seems like an oxymoron that the holiday of love would be the one that often breaks the camel’s back, but that’s what happens when we expect a single day to make up for the benign neglect that our relationships are too often steeping in. 

Falling in love is easy… Staying in love takes work, compassion and forgiveness.In the beginning of most relationships there’s this honeymoon phase if you will. Where you’re learning about each other, asking lots of questions, everything is new and exciting and the butterflies are flying…. This is what researchers would call the dopamine phase.

Consent is a popular topic in the news these days – and for good reason! The best sex happens when both partners are choosing to be in the moment and...

“I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it.” Evelyn Beatrice Hall

Last night I had a book reading for Sex that Works. It was a small gathering as it is really hard to get people out of their cozy homes on a rainy Sundayevening. But inviting people who know me through social media isn’t an option to get the word out either – Facebook’s Zero Tolerance policy...