One concept we hold very dear at Good Clean Love is that of ‘Equal Pleasure’, so much so that we made it a tenant of our sexual health initiative, Make It Good. Why? Because we shouldn’t just settle knowing our partners have been pleased, we should also expect to be pleasured in return. It is the simple idea that the individuals participating in a sexual encounter are equally satisfied....

“A riot is the language of the unheard.”  Martin Luther King Jr.

I am a fan of historical fiction and almost always in the midst of how other people lived through the challenges of a distant time. Witnessing history through fictional personal stories makes it real for me and has often left me marveling at how my own existence has never been swept up in any of the vast sea changes that political...

The older I get, the more I appreciate how long it truly takes to be able to understand, articulate and define what we know. Partly this is because what we know is continuously evolving as we grow. The deep wisdom of aging doesn’t come from what we know nearly as much as it does from witnessing all that we haven’t been able to see and that we may well never know. Successful aging, I think, is when...

"We think fast food is equivalent to pornography, nutritionally speaking. "-Steve ElberAs a culture, our diet often suffers from the overwhelming demands of schedule and time constraints; we pick up food on the run and call it a meal. Even when we take the time to prepare a meal at home, we often eat it in front of a screen, eating quickly and mindlessly. Taking the time to taste our food is a luxury many of us don't know we are missing.

“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Anatomically the breasts shield our heart. Our breasts are far more than the sexualized female adornments that get most of the attention. They are truly amazing organs, hardwired to some of our deepest sensual response, and designed to nourish and sustain new life.

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“Only work on stuff you love … when I don’t, I fight with my wife a lot more, I’m snippy with my kid.” Joe Swanberg, creator of EASY

 

Seems like every time I turn around this week, I have been hearing the word “easy”… from my phone which continues to light up with texts from old friends I haven’t heard from in years, “LOL, saw you on easy…”, to the shipping guy at UPS- who suddenly recognizes our...

According to recent research American heterosexual sex lasts only 7.3 minutes on average. What is the rush, people? If we compare sex to dining, Americans are the sexual equivalent of a fast food joint- an ‘In-N-Out’, if you will.

Sex, like food, is supposed to be savored. It should be a four course meal. You don’t just walk into a fancy restaurant and demand your main course. You take your time....

“OK, so I am old fashioned … call me square.” Dr. Ruth

I grew up listening to Dr. Ruth’s frank talk on late-night radio in New York. Back then no one was talking about topics like masturbation or oral sex, and her straight answers to questions I didn’t yet know how to ask were both encouraging and comforting as I waded through the emergence of my own sexuality during my tumultuous days at Baldwin...

“If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.”

-Maya Angelou

 

Although it is most often in our relationship to our sexuality that we struggle to figure out what is “normal,” the weight of normal also impacts other ways we perceive and think, often obliterating our ability to see all the good that is happening in our lives. For me, the beginning of autumn has...