Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

The first time I learned of the idea of self soothing, I was reading a parenting book and trying to let my first child settle herself to sleep. I was more upset than she was that evening, gripping the door knob, willing myself to not open it and go in to soothe her. Awash in my own inability to self soothe, I cried as she whimpered herself to sleep. That night provided only a glimmer of the power...

“To reach heights, one must stop to help others.”  -Carolyn  Chambers

Our community of Eugene, Oregon lost one of its pioneering leaders on Saturday. For close to eight decades, Carolyn Chamberslead the way in television, film production, real estate and countless community development projects. She spent her life fully invested and, I am proud to say, that Good Clean Love saw her light shine in...

“Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple.” – Dr Seuss

Sexual desire issues are an integral part of long-term relationships. In the twenty-six years of my own marriage I have visited all sides of the desire fence .Whether it was wanting intimacy more than my partner and not feeling wanted by my partner or not wanting my partner or intimacy at all, each machination was...

by Elizabeth Spannuth

Communication is the name of the game and we are constantly hearing about how important it is to talk to your partner. “Communicating” is not always pleasant. It might be positive, but not necessarily pleasant. Some subjects can be tough or uncomfortable and some things are just hard to hear coming from a loved one. There are tons of relationship experts out there ready to...

By Teagan Shepard

Do you find that, even though you spend a good bit of time with your partner, you just don’t feel that connected anymore? It’s highly likely that quantity doesn’t equal quality for you.

Every so often, and I recommend once a week, do something that both of you enjoy and can connect with. Not sure what to do anymore? Here are a few tips.

Take a hike. Seriously, get out of the...

Learn how to give up insecurity and self recrimination in this tender conversation with Kristin Neff, PhD and author of Self-Compassion.Compassion is one of the most misunderstood yet life changing skills in our emotional toolkit. It connects us deeply to all of humanity and in doing so offers us access to true open-heartedness. In practicing self compassion we give up the painful judgments that...

by Jennie Gill Rosier

Over the last few weeks, all but one of our four cars have stopped being able to get us from point A to point B for one reason or another. (Which, by the way, doesn’t include the Hus’ [aka- my husband’s] dream car that’s on jack stands in the garage. So technically, all but one of our five cars don’t work. Why do we have five cars? That’s another story for another time. I...

This is where the tire hits the road, the moments when the external reality, fraught with difficulty and challenge threatens to suck you back to old belief systems and slip into doubt. This is the place where faith can ring hollow and positivity seems like something you are trying to convince yourself is true. I am happy to report even in this most slippery of slopes, gratitude, which is called...

I have been having pain on my vagina for a long time and have tried all the over the counter medicines for infections I could find. Nothing is helping and it hurts just to pee and wipe myself. Sometimes the burning is bad just when I sit for too long or wear jeans. I can’t even think about being sexual and my boyfriend thinks I am making it up and it is all in my head because you can’t really see...