Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

Making Love Sustainable was named as the best sex/relationship blog of 2011 by Intent readers this week. I am honored and humbled simultaneously. Writing is kind of a lonely business; I sit with my thoughts and do some quiet research while I wait for my ideas to coalesce into something meaningful that I can feel good about offering publicly. I find that web writing is a little like writing to...

“Sexual pleasure in woman is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon.”   -Simone de Beauvoir

Driving my son and his friends in the car the other day from a basketball game I overheard the question that made me cringe decades ago, “ How far did you get?” said one to the other with an elbow to the ribs. I shouldn’t have let on that I was listening, but I felt obliged to tell them that...

Warm Up: Revitalizing Your Thinking

“Love and work are the cornerstones of our human-ness…” -Sigmund Freud

Learning how to stay and grow inside your relationship is an art form, a meditation practice and a work ethic all rolled into one. The nice thing about the work is that it is constructed of basic skill sets you can develop and strengthen just by attending to them and practicing. No one is...

Anything you think you have understood about sexuality deserves to hear this remarkable conversation with Christopher Ryan, PhD., co-author of Sex at Dawnwith his wife Cacilda Jetha, MD. Without question two of the most educated and well researched thinkers explore the origin and evolutionary nature of human sexuality with a convincing array of interdisciplinary scientific evidence from...

by Anastasia Strgar

Okay, so I’ll just admit that recently I’ve started experimenting with fantasy when I make love. And I’ve discovered that I get amazing results. While I’m still pretty new at this and they haven’t really morphed out of setting me and my partner into different exotic scenarios, I find I feel sexier when I imagine us making love on a tropical beach or in a castle tower than...

by Anastasia Strgar

Sometimes, I’ll admit, I kind of envy men… It seems like they’ve always had it all figured out. They’re used to putting themselves first. But usually women, especially young women like me, are so used to putting family, friends, or other people first, we have no idea what it is that will make us happy- or if we do we feel bad about wanting what we want. There is a difference,...

“The master was unmoved. To all their objections he would say, ‘You have yet to understand that the shortest distance between a human being and Truth is a story.”  -Anthony de Mello

Having the courage to tell your true story changes the world. The novel and recent film adaption of “The Help” has captured the hearts of so many because it depicts the civil rights struggles of millions into memorable...

by Elizabeth Spannuth

I have a new age-type friend that loves to tell me what to do. It is always under the guise of love and “divine guidance,” but it still feels like it did when my older sister would boss me around as a kid. She speaks with such absolute authority that her opinion is the only valid one that sometimes I get swept up in it, just as I used to do with my older sister. Yes! Eating...

“Things do not change; we change.” ~Henry David Thoreau

It is a powerful new moon I am told by my astrologer- psychic friend Isha Lerner. Apparently tonight is ideal for planting the seeds of change in your life and as that is my new chosen trajectory, nothing like adding the power of the moon and stars to my own aspiration. As we edge near the close of the summer, I see and feel gratitude...