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“To educate yourself for the feeling of gratitude means to take nothing for granted, but to always seek out and value the kind that will stand behind the action. Nothing that is done for you is a matter of course. Everything originates in a will for the good, which is directed at you. Train yourself never to put off the word or action for the expression of gratitude.”   -Albert Schweitzer

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“Join me in the pure atmosphere of gratitude for life.”   – Hafiz of Persia

I took myself to the beach yesterday because I was longing to look out at the Pacific ocean, to look out at far as my eyes could see to the blue and white capped movement of the sea. I love the ocean and many of my most deeply grateful and joyous moments are memories of frolicking in it. I woke with memories of floating in...

“Gratitude is an art of painting an adversity into a lovely picture.”  ~Kak Sri

I grew up in a broken family long before divorce was socially acceptable. I spent most of my early adult life trying to replace my missing family connections with friendships that would fill up the empty spaces left by the void of family. One of the aspects of family that I missed most as I grew up was how a family...

“There is more to life than increasing its speed.”  ~Mohandas K. Gandhi

“The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time….” James Taylor’s voice crooned in my head. This is a chorus that I am thankful to hear over and over again. In fact the older I get, the more that this simple truth has meaning. There really is no where that we are getting to and no arriving at a destination that defines us....

by Elizabeth Spannuth

I have a friend that is going through a divorce and it is increasingly hard to watch. As per the usual cliché with this life altering event, love has turned to hate and things have degraded to the point that one side won’t even speak to the other. Fear of change, years of bottled resentment, and feelings of betrayal helped things to get to this point. Those are strong...

Last week I was stood up on my weekly radio show by Violet Blue, a well-known sex educator and author. This was the second time she no-showed, except this time there was no warning- just no guest right when the show was about to begin. I switched gears quickly, although a bit awkwardly at the start. It was the first time I have ever done a whole hour of talking to myself, but I was surprised at...

“He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.” ~Epictetus

The most common and ancient advice you hear about developing a practice of gratitude is the idea of counting your blessings. Every positivity book I have ever laid my hands on has a section that encourages making regular, even daily lists of the blessings in your life. Taken to...

“Gratitude is a quality similar to electricity: it must be produced and discharged and used up in order to exist at all.”  ~William Faulkner

Every positive psychology text you will ever find will name the practice of gratitude as one of the most direct routes to reframing your thinking and increasing the positive aspects of your life. For instance, like love, it is impossible to feel afraid while...

By Dr Tammy Nelson

Relationships are sometimes about conquering.  We conquer our fears when we conquer the object of our desire. Or we let go of our fear when we allow someone else to conquer us.

In the beginning of a relationship, we desire what we don’t have, wishing for our partner and longing to be with them. And we long to be either conquered or to conquer them. It is a delicious chase to...