Working Boundaries

“Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have.”-Anonymous

It is never too late to learn about your boundaries. I am coming to believe that it is perhaps one of the aspects of living that most defines our maturity and facility for accomplishing our goals. Boundary issues are common to most of us; in fact, our personal boundaries are the basic, yet often invisible rulebook...

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Day 218: The Win/Lose Dance - Good Clean Love

Day 218: The Win/Lose Dance

“Those who know how to win are much more numerous than those who know how to make proper use of their victories” -Polybius (Greek statesman, 200-118 BC)

For a long time I believed that winning and losing were opposites. In the past few months since the biggest win in my career, I have come to see how, like a yin yang symbol, they live not only side by side but within each other. Sometimes losing...

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Day 217: The Emotional Intelligence of Family - Good Clean Love

Day 217: The Emotional Intelligence of Family

“The family. We were a strange little band of characters trudging through life sharing diseases and toothpaste, coveting one another’s desserts, hiding shampoo, borrowing money, locking each other out of our rooms, inflicting pain and kissing to heal it in the same instant, loving, laughing, defending, and trying to figure out the common thread that bound us all together”  ~Erma Bombeck

Today I...

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My Mom the Loveologist

Listen to Wendy talk with her children about what life has been like with a a mother who makes love products and calls herself a loveologist. Listen to how love is distilled through the generations and they generously share their best advice about relationships in families. Understand the work of boundaries – what works and doesn’t from the perspective of teens. Witness the emotional intelligence...

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Day 216: Coming Undone - Good Clean Love

Day 216: Coming Undone

“What Emerson called the Over-soul reminds us that we are joined not only by our habits and our urges and our fears but also by our dreams and that best part of us that intuits an identity larger than you or I. Look up, wherever you are, and you can see what we have in common; look down–or inside–and you can see something universal. It is only when you look around that you note divisions.” -Pico...

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Day 215: Money in the Bank - Good Clean Love

Day 215: Money in the Bank

“Money is neither my god nor my devil.  It is a form of energy that tends to make us more of who we already are, whether it’s greedy or loving.” ~Dan Millman

In May, I won a cash investment for my company Good Clean Love from the Willamette Angel Conference. Today, almost 3 months later, I went to deposit the prize in the bank with the company’s new CEO. It was a joyful moment, the meeting of so...

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Day 214: Stumbling Around Happiness - Good Clean Love

Day 214: Stumbling Around Happiness

“When people think of ‘science’, they naturally think of atoms, planets, robots — things they can touch and see. They know that subjective experiences such as happiness are important, but they believe that such experiences can’t be studied scientifically. That belief is dead wrong.” – Daniel Gilbert.

I often think about Daniel Gilbert’s book Stumbling on Happinesswhen I find myself in exactly the...

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Day 213: The Most Beautiful Love Scene - Good Clean Love

Day 213: The Most Beautiful Love Scene

“A film  is – or should be – more like music than like fiction. It should be a progression of moods and feelings. The theme, what’s behind the emotion, the meaning, all that comes later.”  -Stanley Kubrick

I finally got to see the film, I am Love tonight. It was a story of the emotional and sexual awakening of a middle-aged woman with her adult son’s friend and was at once exhilarating and...

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Day 212: Remembering the Smallest Things - Good Clean Love

Day 212: Remembering the Smallest Things

“The miracle is not to fly in the air, or to walk on the water, but to walk on the earth.”  ~Chinese Proverb

I visited the grave of a dear family friend today with my sons. The anniversary of his death, already two- years- old just recently passed and the flowers on his grave were dried and dead in a tipped over vase. We sat and talked about our friend and his neighbors, each with a name and the...

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