Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

“When people think of ‘science’, they naturally think of atoms, planets, robots — things they can touch and see. They know that subjective experiences such as happiness are important, but they believe that such experiences can’t be studied scientifically. That belief is dead wrong.” – Daniel Gilbert.

I often think about Daniel Gilbert’s book Stumbling on Happinesswhen I find myself in exactly the...

“A film  is – or should be – more like music than like fiction. It should be a progression of moods and feelings. The theme, what’s behind the emotion, the meaning, all that comes later.”  -Stanley Kubrick

I finally got to see the film, I am Love tonight. It was a story of the emotional and sexual awakening of a middle-aged woman with her adult son’s friend and was at once exhilarating and...

“The miracle is not to fly in the air, or to walk on the water, but to walk on the earth.”  ~Chinese Proverb

I visited the grave of a dear family friend today with my sons. The anniversary of his death, already two- years- old just recently passed and the flowers on his grave were dried and dead in a tipped over vase. We sat and talked about our friend and his neighbors, each with a name and the...

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought.” -Buddha

One of the mantras of my life that has continuously proven more true all the time is the idea that what we focus on multiplies. This is true on every plane of existence, whether it is the mental, physical, spiritual or emotional internal states or the many ways we interact with the world. This is in fact one of the primary laws of...

“Sex lies at the root of life, and we can never learn to reverence life until we know how to understand sex.”  Henry Ellis

Who doesn’t want a healthy and satisfying sex life? And yet a substantial and growing percentage of people struggle with low libido and sexual dysfunction issues. Overcoming this challenge in order to benefit from the many emotional and physical benefits of lovemaking should...

“A writer writes not because he is educated but because he is driven by the need to communicate. Behind the need to communicate is the need to share. Behind the need to share is the need to be understood.”   -Leo Rosten

Communication is the essence and primary vehicle for most everything in life. Everyone does it all the time, with and without agreed upon signals, words, expressions. Communication...

Ever wonder about Polyamory and the lifestyle of multiple consensual lovers? This discussion about the opposite of jealousy and the many ways that people come to agreements to fulfill their emotional and intimate needs is compelling and eye opening. Dr. Deborah Anapol, author of Polyamory in the 21st Century (2010), and several other titles, and international teacher and counselor for the...

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond the winning.”  — Lao Tzu

A good friend told me an important truth about all the trying I have been doing to let go of how things have been at Good Clean Love. She said, “It is interesting that when you are trying, even when you are 99% of the way there it is really hard, but...

“Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have.” Anonymous

It is never too late to learn about your boundaries. I am coming to believe that it is perhaps one of the aspects of living that most defines our maturity and facility for accomplishing our goals. Boundary issues are common to most of us, but for some of us, like me, their absence colors every relationship I have...