Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

Listen to author Jillian Lauren discuss her riveting New York Times best selling memoir Some Girls, My Life in a Harem. Exploring the nature of what it means to be female and sexual in our culture and the emotional crossroads that bring many women into paid sexual work, her interview, like her book is a breath of fresh air. True to her commitment to share the whole truth of her experience, she...

“You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you get what you need….” -Rolling Stones

This song starts to play in my head at interesting moments. Lately it is on instant replay as I sort through current events and try to organize them in categories of what I want and what I need. Here again I seem to be proving the Daniel Gilbert’s theory  of Stumbling Around Happiness, which...

“Never mind searching for who you are. Search for the person you aspire to be.” ~Robert Brault

I have been struggling with the big changes that are happening in my work. The idea of the change, which feels light years away is taking shape and bears little resemblance to the fantasy I imagined in my head, although it fulfills all the requirements that I set for the change. I didn’t figure in the...

“When I let go of what I am I become what I might be

To the mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders

Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow.

Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like

To attain knowledge, add things every day

To attain wisdom, remove things every day

To love someone deeply...

“The only reason for time is so that everything doesn’t happen at once.”  -Albert Einstein

We were both thinking about time as I walked down the beach with my husband today. I was flashing on the last time we walked this same beach fifteen summers before. In Bandon, huge sea stacks mark the beaches; architecture from the sea that is unforgettable. I was remembering how small my 18- year- old son...

“Total physical and mental inertia are highly agreeable, much more so than we allow ourselves to imagine. A beach not only permits such inertia but enforces it, thus neatly eliminating all problems of guilt. It is now the only place in our overly active world that does.”  -John Kenneth Galbraith

I have finally met the full weight of my fatigue and I am so happy to have a long weekend at a beach...

“Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want, but the realization of how much you already have.” -Unknown

These days I feel swallowed up in the experience of grief and loss. Even as there is a part of me that recognizes the massive changes that are happening inside Good Clean Love are fulfilling my dreams, I can’t seem to explain or move through the heartbreak of losing control of a...

“I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I’m not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.” -Robert McCloskey

Again I am facing the painful awareness of the places where I continue to fall short in my capacity to relate. The ability to communicate at home, at work, and in life is a strong barometer and predictor of our success in the relationships that...

Listen in as Wendy explores the best sex guide on the market: The Guide to Getting it On with author Paul Joannides. In its sixth edition, filled with over 900 pages of practical skill based lessons and a balanced, healthy emotional approach to creating a satisfying and evolving sex life. Don’t miss one of the masters of sexual education talk about the core of sexual education and health.