Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

“It is important to expect nothing, to take every experience, including the negative ones, as merely steps on the path, and to proceed.” -Ram Dass

I was struggling for a lot of the day; I felt a magnetic pull towards negative thinking…it can be seductive like that. Often I start with one solid negative experience or thought. Today, it was a combination of dealing with medical insurance and...

“Mindsight is a literary MRI: a mind-blowing book that will change the way you think about the way you think.” –Arianna Huffington

Ever on the look-out for tools to make this positivity quest of mine a true changing of how my mind works, I came upon Dan Siegel’s book, Mindsight. Siegel, a clinically trained psychiatrist from Harvard, is revolutionizing the practice of psychotherapy by...

“Forgiveness is the name of love practiced among people who love poorly. The hard truth is that all people love poorly. We need to forgive and be forgiven every day, every hour increasingly. That is the great work of love among the fellowship of the weak that is the human family.”

-Henri J.M. Nouwen

I am faced with the discrepancy of what I teach about love and how well I practice it every...

“The pleasure of living and the pleasure of the orgasm are identical. Extreme orgasm anxiety forms the basis of the general fear of life.”
~ Wilhelm Reich

One great benefit of owning a love product company is that I get to study and teach about orgasm. I was blessed with a proclivity towards the experience and remember finding this unique release valve as a small child. Growing up, I only knew how...

“The power of mindfulness is that it can literally sever the link between negative thoughts and negative emotions.” Barbara Fredrickson, Phd

Mindfulness is a Buddhist practice that has been handed down for millennia. Buddhism is both a historic spiritual tradition and a philosophy of life. Working with what is, the practice aims to the practitioner into a full experience of the present moment....

The sun was out in Eugene today. Sometimes a sunny day in the northwest is like an epiphany. After days of dulling gray, an open blue sky makes your shoulders feel like they are an inch higher. Actually everything seems to lift and nature’s small details are all tiny miracles assuring you of the permanence of life cycles. The buds are already showing on the trees and tiny blades of grass dare to...

“In a time when nothing is more certain than change, the commitment of two people to one another has become difficult and rare. Yet, by its scarcity, the beauty and value of this exchange have only been enhanced.” ~Robert Sexton

One of the first questions people ask me when they find out what I do is “How did you get into love work?” My usual answer is “to learn to stay in my own...

“For a list of all the ways technology has failed to improve the quality of life, please press three.” ~Alice Kahn

I am not what you would call tech savvy. I live with technology and am curious about it because in business, especially an online business, you have to know something about how technology leads our lives. I love my new kindle because I can carry 50 books with me at once and be...