Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

“Keep on beginning and failing. Each time you fail, start all over again, and you will grow stronger until you have accomplished a purpose – not the one you began with perhaps, but one you’ll be glad to remember.” – Anne Sullivan

Learning to get back up again after we fall is the one of the pillars in the foundation of positivity. It doesn’t’ matter what you are trying to do, life will hand you...

“To state the facts frankly is not to despair the future nor indict the past. The prudent heir takes careful inventory of his legacies and gives a faithful accounting to those whom he owes an obligation of trust.” John F. Kennedy

Tonight’s State of the Union Address by President Obama made me reconsider my research and work on positivity. The problems facing this country in the short and long...

“It is important to expect nothing, to take every experience, including the negative ones, as merely steps on the path, and to proceed.” -Ram Dass

I was struggling for a lot of the day; I felt a magnetic pull towards negative thinking…it can be seductive like that. Often I start with one solid negative experience or thought. Today, it was a combination of dealing with medical insurance and...

“Mindsight is a literary MRI: a mind-blowing book that will change the way you think about the way you think.” –Arianna Huffington

Ever on the look-out for tools to make this positivity quest of mine a true changing of how my mind works, I came upon Dan Siegel’s book, Mindsight. Siegel, a clinically trained psychiatrist from Harvard, is revolutionizing the practice of psychotherapy by...

“Forgiveness is the name of love practiced among people who love poorly. The hard truth is that all people love poorly. We need to forgive and be forgiven every day, every hour increasingly. That is the great work of love among the fellowship of the weak that is the human family.”

-Henri J.M. Nouwen

I am faced with the discrepancy of what I teach about love and how well I practice it every...

“The pleasure of living and the pleasure of the orgasm are identical. Extreme orgasm anxiety forms the basis of the general fear of life.”
~ Wilhelm Reich

One great benefit of owning a love product company is that I get to study and teach about orgasm. I was blessed with a proclivity towards the experience and remember finding this unique release valve as a small child. Growing up, I only knew how...

“The power of mindfulness is that it can literally sever the link between negative thoughts and negative emotions.” Barbara Fredrickson, Phd

Mindfulness is a Buddhist practice that has been handed down for millennia. Buddhism is both a historic spiritual tradition and a philosophy of life. Working with what is, the practice aims to the practitioner into a full experience of the present moment....

The sun was out in Eugene today. Sometimes a sunny day in the northwest is like an epiphany. After days of dulling gray, an open blue sky makes your shoulders feel like they are an inch higher. Actually everything seems to lift and nature’s small details are all tiny miracles assuring you of the permanence of life cycles. The buds are already showing on the trees and tiny blades of grass dare to...