Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes. ~William James

A positivity ratiois the number of positive events or thoughts you have compared with the number of negative ones. According to Dr. Barbara Fredrickson a positive event can be something as small as a feeling of gratitude or an attitude which is curious and wondering....

“Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity, and responsibility to give something back by becoming more.”- Anthony Robbins

The New Year began under the light of a blue moon, although I couldn’t see it as I drove down a dark freeway in the driving rain. I was trying to follow the lane markers when the car started to hydroplane. Then a light symbol showed up on my dash that was...

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think, we become.”– Buddha

We all have a biologically imposed hedonic set pointin our ability to be positive and happy. It isn’t surprising when you consider how many of our personality traits can be linked to our genetic code. The nature/nurture argument has clearly demonstrated that the environment of our...

Mastering the Art, Studying the Science and Discovering the Practice of Positivity, One day at a time…

This is probably the biggest new years resolution that I have ever undertaken but may also be the single most important commitment I have ever made in my life. I have been studying, reading and occasionally writing about the science of positive psychology for some time now. The data is pretty...

One of my new favorite books on my nightstand is “Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction” by Debby Herbenick, As one of the most well respected sex educators in the country, Debby has answered thousands of questions about everything sexual from people across the country as the primary responder to literally thousands of questions at the Kinsey Institute. Because...

“To fall in love is easy, even to remain in it is not difficult; our human loneliness is cause enough.But it is a hard quest worth making to find a comrade through whose steady presence one becomes steadily the person one desires to be.” -Anna Louise Strong

It is that time of year again when we are all faced with finding the perfect gift for someone we love. With the economic turmoil and its...

“What is it you want, Mary? What do you want? You want the moon? Just say the word and I’ll throw a lasso around it and pull it down. Hey. That’s a pretty good idea. I’ll give you the moon, Mary.” -George Bailey

I just recently viewed December’s Sustainable Love Movie of the Month and from the first time to the thousandth time I still hold it in a special place in my heart. Frank Capra’s “It’s A...

“It is said that desire is a product of the will, but the converse is in fact true: will is a product of desire.” -Denis Diderot

It seems as if everyone is talking about female desireor actually, the rampant lack of it, in the press lately. It is a conversation that happens often at my Good Clean Love office and in many ways is our raison d’etre. It was my own discouraging experience of female...

‘Great is the art of beginning, but greater is the art of ending.’ ~Lazarus Long

Holidays are challenging times for many people. Rather than a storehouse of loving memories, for many of us holidays serve as annual reminders of the dysfunction and pain that characterized family life. As unique as the stories are between families, the feelings of loneliness, disappointment and worthlessness...