The V-Word

I have been thinking about self love lately, and not just the emotional kind. I just recently learned that the month of May was recently named National Masturbation month. Certainly it is a topic that could do with a little airing out, if based only on its checkered history alone. It wasn’t all that long ago that boys were tortured with all kinds of strange contraptions to stop them from...

Walking into your bedroom should make your heart rate slow down. It should be the place where you sigh deeply and your whole body relaxes. The bedroom is your nest....

Sex TodayWell, it made it to the front page of most newspapers again today, the governor of New York was caught in a sting of an elite, top-priced prostitute ring. On the day before Valentine’s Day, no less. His career in a shambles, Mr. Clean, as he was referred to for his corruption-fighting administration, has fallen among the rest of us mortals. It probably won’t be the end of his career. After all, it was only 8 short years ago that Hillary was the wronged wife, and now look at her—putting on the pants in the family to bring the commander-in-chief role home again.

We can catch someone else’s feelings with the same speed as we can catch a cold from them. We live in an invisible emotional economy where the moods of the people around you – good and bad become the basis of the emotional transactions of your day. A day full of people who are optimistic and happy is likely going to be remembered as a good day, just as a day with more than one conflict or...

Hope you enjoy this new series of posts: Loveology Minutes with brief thoughts on how to keep your heart open and your love sustainable. Send in other great ideas or quotes and we will highlight them…

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage..” -Anais Nin

Nowhere is this thought more true than in our capacity to find love in response to life. Opening our heart to the range of...

If you were one of the millions waiting for the last minutes of yesterday’s Superbowl, then you saw the million dollar invitation by Victoria’s Secret. A bigger-than-life beautiful girl, dropping the ball and mouthing the words that millions of guys dream of hearing. I have to admit it was tasteful and said what we all know, that after the sports events are over- the real game is in our own...

I was recently introduced to one of the prima sex bloggers. A mutual friend sent her some of my writing and she was intrigued. I hadn’t looked at her blog until today when she offered me a handout that she had written about how to become the sex blogger you have always dreamed of. She mentioned some of the bloggers that she liked to read also, so I went exploring and I realized again, why I write about intimate love and sex the way I do and am not really a fit in the sex blog category. The names of...

Every now and again we are given the gift of true presence. Usually it is when we are faced with the stark reality of life ending, whether it is through the death of someone or something beloved. The details that we often think of as life itself, fall away and the mystery of our frail human form and relationships that make life meaningful is all that we have, and all that we ever really had.

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Looking for a Christmas gift that will give you hours of enjoyment? I can heartily recommend this big picture book by Susan Crain Bakos, The Sex Bible. (Yes, you can get them on Good Clean Love). Besides the tasteful full page photographs, the messaging throughout the book supports my belief that sex and love are meant to be the best of friends and that both are greatly enhanced by each other.

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