What Kind of Lube Should I Use?
Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!
Enhance Intimacy: Tantric Yoga for Lovers Techniques
Celebrating Men, Loving Boys – Happy Father’s Day
“..that a boy is, in large part, hard wired to be who he is. We can’t change who he is. We can teach him how to develop who he is with confidence, and toward a direction that contributes to our world.” Michael Gurian
There is a surprising truth to the unique love that girls have for their fathers and that boys hold for their mothers. And it is through witnessing this generational love that my...
Celebrating Sex that Works with Pride
“Sex that works depends on our being able to trust ourselves, and our ability to trust ourselves depends on understanding who we are and how we relate to the people around us.” Wendy Strgar, Sex That Works.
It bodes well for my new book, Sex that Works, to launch on the first day of Pride month. For nearly 5 decades, the LGBT community has commemorated the Stonewall Inn Protest of 1969 each June....
A Note About My Upcoming Book - Sex That Works
“The real vulnerability is not from taking off our clothes together, but in baring our hearts to one another…” Wendy Strgar, Sex that Works
This week marks the official launch of my new book, “Sex that Works-An Intimate Guide to Awakening Your Erotic Life.” I have often said that if we could only fix one problem in our life and it was sex- we would by default, fix all of the others. What most...
3 Ways Masturbation Can Improve Your Intimate Life
“Masturbation: the primary sexual activity of mankind. In the nineteenth century it was a disease; in the twentieth, it’s a cure.” — Thomas Szasz
Although there is no chapter dedicated specifically to effects of masturbation on health in my new book Sex that Works, I refer often to why self-pleasure is so essential to moving towards a healthy relationship with pleasure itself. In fact, sex...
3 Ways to Mother Yourself this Mother’s day
“The simple act of being completely attentive and present… is an act of love, and it fosters unshakeable well-being.” Sharon Salzberg
Mother’s Day has always been a difficult holiday for me. As a daughter who struggled most of my life with my mother’s lackluster attention for me and as a mother who overcompensated for all the things I longed for in childhood but was often overwhelming for my own...
Procreation vs Recreation: Discover the Balance
Finding Time for Love
“There is more to life than increasing its speed.” Mohandas K. Gandhi
As I write this advice about love, I am flying over the pacific on my way home from my favorite place on earth, Hawaii. It is the only place that I have ever traveled that I never feel ready to leave. Maybe it’s because I more readily can find a slower rhythm of life here in the tropics, or because the days start so much later...
Creating a Culture of Consent
“A consent culture is a society that values and promotes consensual sex, condemns rape and supports survivors of sexual violence…” – Siobhan Donovan, Building a Consent Culture
Almost every interview request I get these days begins with questions about consent; both what it means to say yes to sexual contact and what happens when initial consent goes away. The first thing that I say in these...