by Wendy Strgar December 07, 2006
I just read some startling statistics on sexual frequency that really have to make you wonder how we could all be so collectively confused about the meaning and purpose of sex. The World Health Organization estimates that in any twenty four hour period, i.e. one day, 200 million men and women around the world engage in intercourse. Less than a million of these encounters result in pregnancy, which means that there are a great many sexual encounters that are not motivated by procreation.
I think these statistics are sufficient for us to reasonably accept that the human drive towards pleasure and play in intimacy is at least as meaningful as the drive to procreate. Still it’s odd, how we like to believe that human sexual behavior has somehow transcended the animalistic and primal urges of other mammals. I think in light of these World Health stats it is in our best interest to embrace our very basic need for pleasure.
How come we never wonder about our base urges when it comes to our fascination with violence and war? Considering the collective resources humans put towards killing, our sex drive actually starts to make us look pretty human, or at least not totally animalistic. I know that I risk showing my progressive tendencies here, but it is on the heels of a bipartisan review of the Iraq debacle. I still believe if we embraced sex with more love, we would be less fascinated by war.
by Wendy Strgar March 21, 2019
Usually by the time we “spring forward,” most of us have long forgotten our New Year’s resolutions and not because we don’t want to change, but because the big sweeping ones we plan for after our third glass of champagne are so hard to get our hands around in the day to day. While the desire for change is earnest, what most of us miss is that real change is found in the small steps that we do consistently.
by Wendy Strgar February 21, 2019
Our sense of smell is ancient and the source of our most powerful emotional memories. It is also the primal sensory pathway to sexual attraction. And yet, we often give little attention to all that our sense of smell can evoke, in part because we have so little vocabulary for scent. Often we're limited to “it smells like…” and delineated only between pleasant and unpleasant.