Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

“The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.”  -Ernest Hemingway

I am coming to love my brokenness or at least I am coming to allow it the space it needs. I am not ashamed of the fear that blinds me or makes it hard to sit still with the uncertainty and disappointment of the moment. I am learning to look at my weaknesses as a friend, or at least a teacher. It is...

“We should come home from adventures, and perils, and discoveries every day with new experience and character.” -Henry David Thoreau

The most memorable moment of the Banff Film Festival this weekend was the recollection by  James and Justin about their journey in a two man kayak Crossing the Ditch,which is another name for one of the most robust sea crossings; the Tasman sea, a 2000 plus kilometer...

I’ve never had any luck with relationships. Most of the time I either get restless within a couple weeks or the guy is a jerk and treats me poorly. I’m tired of dating around and don’t get any real satisfaction from it. But I’ve been dating my current boyfriend for about four months and he’s really great. We do lots of fun things together, he’s supportive, kind, and actually cares about our...

“To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead.” -Bertrand Russell

I have come to believe that much of what parades as sexual dissatisfaction between couples is actually a manifestation of fear. Most people through no fault of their own have had little education concerning their sexuality or their access to pleasure. Laden as the topic is with shame and...

“I have understood the population explosion intellectually for a long time. I came to understand it emotionally one stinking hot night in Delhi….The temperature was well over 100 degrees and the air was a haze of dust and smoke…The streets were alive with people. People eating, people washing, people sleeping, people visiting , arguing and screaming…. People begging. People defecating and...

“It was a high counsel that I once heard given to a young person, “Always do what you are afraid to do.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

Sometimes the storyline and problem solving that can and often does dominate life can consume it. We can’t see the light changing in the sky or hear the birds in the morning. We miss out on lighthearted exchanges happening around us because we are too consumed with the...

“Fantasy is all about potential,” writes award winning erotica author and editor Kristina Wright. Combining her education in humanities and her curiosity about human sexuality, she is the perfect guide in exploring written fantasies in the form of erotica. As author and editor of several anthologies including Fairy Tale Lust and Dream Lovers, her work invites us all into the freedom to explore the...

“The world has grown suspicious of anything that looks like a happily married life.”  -Oscar Wilde

I know my marriage is an anomaly. Happy marriages are rare. For as much as we all long for a relationship that we can grow old in, we don’t really believe in them. I think this might be because many people confuse the early “in love” experience of relating with the ongoing effort of creating a love...