Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

“I write entirely to find out what I’m thinking, what I’m looking at, what I see and what it means, what I want, and what I fear.” -Joan Didion

This daily discipline of coming to terms with my daily life and myself in its midst could be called an exercise in self awareness. I have recognized more of myself – both the flaws and the gifts of who I am from this year of writing than probably any other...

“In minds crammed with thoughts, organs clogged with toxins, and bodies stiffened with neglect, there is just no space for anything else.” ~Alison Rose Levy, “An Ancient Cure for Modern Life”

The Buddhists celebrate the great fortune of being born into a human body. It is a divine experience actually to have five senses awake in world that has a magically huge range of sights, smells, tastes,...

“Men’s natures are alike; it is their habits that separate them.”  ~Confucius

Choosing how to live doesn’t happen in what we esteem to be the big decisions in life, rather it is the small collection of habits we develop that define our thinking, our actions and ultimately our character. One of the great challenges of living a quality human life is that it is both easier to develop bad habits than...

Change is the constant of life. Learning how to think about the changes that happen to us as well as the ones we create ourselves is at the heart of a successful life. Listen to Rebecca Rodskog, a seasoned change agent explain the values clarification that drives successful changes and the simple ways that re-thinking how we approach change in our personal lives can and does alter the outcome of...

“Be vigilant: guard your mind against negative thoughts.” -Buddha

It took me 82 days at the beginning of this positivity quest to stop having my negative words and thoughts control me. I had no idea when I began how many negative thoughts I was even having in a day, but I did a little research. Humans have on average between 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts per day, or approximately a new thought every...

“Hope begins in the dark,  the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come.  You wait and watch and work: you don’t give up.”  -Anne Lamott

Some days the best you can do is show up. You agree to not make any big decisions about the future on these days. You are happy for busy work and the small acts of efficiency that can come from moving things around...

“Give me a fruitful error any time, full of seeds, bursting with its own corrections. You can keep your sterile truth for yourself.” ~Vilfredo Pareto

As the last days of the positivity quest dwindle to a close, I thought I would use as many of the remaining posts as possible to outline the foundations of creating a positive life. I will be looking for the major thematic units that have woven the...