Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

“I think all great innovations are built on rejections.” -Louis Ferdinand-Celine

I was so excited to have a preliminary interview on the Oprah radio network for my trip to Chicago. This chance to share my new book in a place where so many people could learn about it seemed too good to be true. It turned out that it was too good to be true. They rejected me- and I remembered again just how much...

“Know that I am absorbed by my work…These landscapes of water and reflection have become an obsession. It is beyond my power as an old man, yet I want to manage to render what I feel…” -Claude Monet

The highlight of the time in Chicago was the Art Institute. Walking through the endless galleries of some of the most beautiful impressionist work ever made and having the luxury to stand up close,...

“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling  deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.”  -M. Scott Peck

I am in a hotel room, in the middle of a city, in the middle of the country where I am as...

Rachel Kramer Bussel is the expert’s expert on erotica or all tyrpes. Listen as she talks about the process of sexual fiction writing and the pleasure of editing the sexual fantasies of hundreds of writers over a decade of editing over 25 anthologies of some of the best sexual writing in the country. Rachel speaks with an honest voice about the joy and satisfaction of exploring the mystery of...

“Life can be found only in the present moment. The past is gone, the future is not yet here, and if we do not go back to ourselves in the present moment, we cannot be in touch with life.” -Thich Nhat Hanh

Living in the present moment is a relief. The world makes sense just as it is, there is no trying to fashion it to fit your ideas of what it should look like or how things will turn out. There is...

“The world is all gates, all opportunities, strings of tension waiting to be struck.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

After reading the New York times style section cover storyabout the urgency shared by millions to get onto the Oprah show and the industry building around it, I thought to myself, “As much as I would love to chat with Oprah, I don’t want to be on that waiting list.” I also thought about the...

“Each one has to find his peace from within. And peace to be real must be unaffected by outside circumstances.” -Mahatma Gandhi

I am working to change my belief system. Instead of believing that I must create all the situations and events that will make my new book project successful, I want to believe that I my real work is about being available to the opportunities as they find me. In truth it...

“I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do.” ~Edward Everett Hale

I spent the evening at home making love products. It reminded me of another era in the company history that is all but forgotten now. There were a couple of small product lines that I never grew enough to contract out, so the pleasure...

“What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from.” – T. S. Eliot

I sometimes wonder if the reason I have for so long embraced the motto, you never fail until you quit is because I am so unskilled at endings. I feel like the tire that is stuck spinning in a muddy rut when it is time to move on. I have the will and the engine...