Good Clean Reads

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“Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.”  ~Victor Borge

I forgot that I’m supposed to be having fun; I even forgot that I wanted to have fun. My anxiety levels matched to the first few pages of the daily news. Life was all seriousness and problem solving and I had forgotten how much fun there was to be had. It is easy to get blindsided by the day’s business, the details of caring...

“What is uttered from the heart alone, Will win the hearts of others to your own.”  -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Last night as I was preparing for my talk today, my nerves started to get the best of me and I couldn’t articulate. I would start and then stammer, start over again and lose my thread, stop and start until I lost hope for the trying. I am proud and happy to report that my next choice...

“Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” -T.S. Eliot

Tomorrow I am going to speak to hundreds of people at once… I have been waiting for an opportunity like this for years it seems, and now that it is upon me I can’t quite get the story straight, except when I am reading it from the note cards. I can’t quite make the leaps and transitions that happened as...

“Simplicity and repose are the qualities that measure the true value of any work of art.” -Frank Lloyd Wright

Funny how just deciding to have more fun, to relax into the game of it all for only one day has been like a system re-boot. It is almost magical how giving up the need to get it done transforms anxious urgency into a steadfast rhythm, seemingly without effort. At least this is how the day...

“If it’s not fun, you’re not doing it right” -Bob Basso

This is one of the most challenging parts of positivity for me to keep my eye on, the fun quotient. I forget often about having fun and, worse still, fall out of touch with just the fact that the whole point of life should be fun. I don’t know why being so serious seems so much more adult to me or if it just a bad habit, but between the...

“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable...

“Speech is the mirror of the soul; as a man speaks, so is he.” -Publilius Syrus  (Roman author, 1st century B.C.)

Here’s the thing about getting what you want… then you have to do it. I have been envisioning myself as a public inspirational speaker for years. Anyone who knows me would agree I have a lot to say, but still, giving a speech is different than talking. A speech, especially a short one,...

“This just might hurt a little…love hurts sometimes when you do it right…..Don’t be afraid of a little bit of pain, pleasure is on the other side…” -John Legend

These two lines are some of the best music lyrics I have ever heard and being crooned to in John Legend’s honey voice doesn’t hurt to bring home the message. This is the truth about love and life, that often when we do it right it still...

“There can be no knowledge without emotion. We may be aware of a truth, yet until we have felt its force, it is not ours. To the cognition of the brain must be added the experience of the soul.” –Arnold Bennett

I married into a family whose primary operating principle was “If something is wrong, don’t talk about it.” Even as a young woman in my early twenties, I knew instinctively that silence in...