Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

“The school is the last expenditure upon which America should be willing to economize.”  ~Franklin D. Roosevelt

School politics and reform has always been a vocation of sorts for me. My first child had special needs when she was young so I learned a great deal early on about the magic that can happen in a class room. In one of my daughter’s first immersion classes, Mark, a graduate student in...

“Sometimes a breakdown can be the beginning of a kind of breakthrough, a way of living in advance through a trauma that prepares you for a future of radical transformation.”  -Cherrie Moraga

There are days when despite our best efforts, stuff, systems and relationships break down. Early morning, I listen for election results. The progressive movement that inspired the country a couple short years...

Learn to listen for and respond to your libido… Dr. Diana Hoppe’s author of  Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You: What Your Libido Reveals About Your Lifeshares her insights and wisdom on discovering the pathway back to your sexual self. Gain new understanding of your body, your brain and the processes that promote sexual health. Intimacy is sparked by everything from communication to learning to take...

“True progress quietly and persistently moves along without notice.” -St. Francis of Assisi

Today, my book Love that Works was accepted by an alternative publishing house/distributor for national distribution! I am overjoyed to be part of the 3% of the material that they accept and promote. I must admit that I had some shadows of doubt that I was continuously having to sweep aside about whether my...

I spent a week writing this post about having patience with ourselves, our loved ones and our political process only to encounter a day full of impatience again. It is the most important practice one can undertake, this willingness to allow time to be what it is, to allow the process of our lives to fill us, to learn how to wait and enjoy it all… Happy election day to us all… please vote with your...

“Art is a wound turned into light.” -Georges Braque

Creativity is the human potential we are provided, which allows our psyche to process and transform the dark recesses of our minds. When we bring our struggles with relationships or even just a painful incident in our days into the light of form we contact the deepest and most powerful safety valve we are programmed with. Whether it be movement,...

“Courage is the strength/power to let go of the familiar.” -Raymond Lindquist

My twelve-year-old daughter Emma gave me this quote in a frame for my birthday. I was a little shocked that she would find something like this and asked her how she chose it. She said, “Well, I know you are letting go of a lot right now.” Then she said, “So you know it’s courageous.” Then she turned on her heels, iPod in...

“And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.”  -Abraham Lincoln

Today is my birthday. My philosophy of the birthday celebration is that the best way to honor this personal new year celebration is to try to include a little bit of everything you most treasure in the day. Like a vision board, post even just a moments reflection on what you love about...

“Sex is more than an act of pleasure, its’ the ability to be able to feel so close to a person, so connected, so comfortable that it’s almost breathtaking to the point you feel you can’t take it. And at this moment you’re a part of them.”  -Unknown

For all the writing, talking and making products for sexual enjoyment that I spend my time, at the end of the day, it is the doing that gives the rest...