Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

“We get to think of life as an inexhaustible well. Yet everything happens only a certain number of times, and a very small number, really. How many more times will you remember a certain afternoon of your childhood, some afternoon that’s so deeply a part of your being that you can’t even conceive of your life without it? Perhaps four or five times more. perhaps not even that. How many more times...

“All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.” -Havelock Ellis

Today was a closet purge. I finally packed up all of the size 10 pants and jeans that no longer close around my waist. I have been waiting to fit into these clothes for at least two years now, if not three. Some still had their tags on, so I know I must have been close to that size not long ago. It...

“I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought; and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.” ~G.K. Chesterton

In a houseful of teenagers, preteens and young adults I rarely know how many there will be for dinner. It could be as small as the three of us left, or as many as twelve with the steady boyfriend or girlfriend, or the clan of boys surrounding my younger son. It is...

“A good friend is a connection to life – a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world.” ~Lois Wyse

Lunch today with my friend Lucy was a great gift. Our friendship started through the friendship of our sons and has grown well past theirs. She is one of the most optimistic realists I have ever known. Ever the voice of thoughtful reason, her positive spin on...

“I celebrate myself, and sing myself.” -Walt Whitman

I have been reflecting on half a year of positivity questing this week. Trying to organize what I have learned in this time and trying to marshal it to step up when, even now I can forget how to be positive. Happily because I talk about it so much, when I can’t quite get there, I have many reliable reflectors in my family to remind me...

“Meanings are not determined by situations, but we determine ourselves by the meanings we give to situations.” -Alfred Adler

During the process of working with the angel investment conference, I met three kinds of entrepreneurs. There were people like me, who were in the midst of building a dream, and then there were those who referred to themselves as recovering entrepreneurs, people who were...

“Transcendence is the power to be born anew, to make a fresh start. to turn over a new leaf, to begin with a clean slate, to enter into a state of grace, to have a second chance…Transcendence is more than just the accurate realization that the past is over. It is also a realignment of all dimensions of yourself with the very source of your life.” -Robert Fritz

Here is the most profound gift...

Listen to Michele Sugg, Certified Sex Therapist and President elect of AASECT explore the sexual lifestyle and experience of polyamory and other alternative sexual practices. This provocative conversation challenges prevalent cultural views about the sexual choices and provides healthy food for thought about sexual and relationship boundaries.

“Learned helplessness is the giving-up reaction, the quitting response that follows from the belief that whatever you do doesn’t matter.” –Arnold Schwarzenegger

I think we all struggle with some degree of learned helplessness, that doubting inner voice that is never quite satisfied. It is not the voice of evil in us that moves us to bad choices and failed relationships. Rather, it is this...