The V-Word

There is no time like long summer nights to cultivate the uniquely, profoundly human capacity for pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. Our pleasure response transforms our relationship to each other and even to life itself.  Focusing on pleasure not only changes how we see our opportunities for intimate connection but also invites us into a deeper relationship with our erotic soul.

S1:E7 | July 16, 2020 | 31 min. Wendy talks to poet, teacher, and storyteller Mark Nepo, author of #1 New York Times bestseller The Book of Awakening: Having the...

Most people accept breathing as an autonomic process that doesn’t require much thought. It turns out that, although our breath will rise and fall without our direction, adding a little agency and consciousness to our breathing goes a very long way in improving our health.

It has been many years that I have been working on cultivating my own inner stillness. Early on, I was just trying to calm down my overworked central nervous system. Like most of us, I just assumed that it was one of the systems in the body that automatically resets and essentially manages itself. 

S1:E6 | July 9, 2020 | 34 min. Wendy talks to Dr. Susie Gronski, author of "Pelvic Pain, the Ultimate Cock Block" about the very common experience and silence around...

Although yesterday’s Supreme Court decision limiting access to birth control is a contemporary issue, it is important to place it into its long historical context to better understand what our current conundrum means. Humans have been seeking, experimenting with, succeeding and failing at contraception literally since the beginning of recorded time.

I have had sex thousands of times with the same man. We have been married for close to four decades. Our sex life has been the blessing that has kept us working through the challenges and that, even now, makes our shared grief digestible. Of all of the skills I have developed over the years of building Good Clean Love, sustaining our sexual life, growing up erotically, and sharing intimacy over the span of decades is why I keep writing these columns.

Reid Mihalko, a Sex and Relationship Educator and known as "America's favorite sex geek", joins Wendy to discuss a letter from a "Me Too" man. They talk about Reid's own Accountability Process, discuss what restorative justice might look like in this context, and whose voices should be centered in this kind of work.

I have never been much of a fan of Facebook, even long before there were longitudinal studies on the negative impact that social media wreaks on most people’s self-esteem. It seemed clear that the idealized versions of ourselves and our lives that we freely deposited into their platform were being controlled and curated for profit.