“There is more to life than increasing its speed.” Mohandas K. Gandhi
As I write this advice about love, I am flying over the pacific on my way home from my favorite place on earth, Hawaii. It is the only place that I have ever traveled that I never feel ready to leave. Maybe it’s because I more readily can find a slower rhythm of life here in the tropics, or because the days start so much later...
Almost every interview request I get these days begins with questions about consent; both what it means to say yes to sexual contact and what happens when initial consent goes away. The first thing that I say in these...
“Kisses are a better fate than wisdom.” e.e. cummings
Days are becoming balmy, daylight lasts into evening, and the flowering trees are now awash in color. If ever there was a moment that the kiss was invented somehow I feel sure it was when the world awoke to springtime. In fact, the earliest recorded kisses date back to India in 1500 BC where early Vedic scriptures describe lovers “setting...
Do you feel comfortable saying vagina? If you paused, don’t worry. It’s not you, it’s a culture of censorship. The overt kind (such as laws criminalizing the usage of the word!) and the more subliminal type, too. Are there consequences to this type of censorship? You bet. In fact, it directly jeopardizes your health. Because we know that there is power in words, Good Clean Love has partnered with...
Women’s health is at the center of what we do at Good Clean Love. From our Bio-Match patented technology to extensive healthcare sampling program, our company is known for going above and beyond for women. That’s why joining the Change for Women Collective was an easy decision for our founder, Wendy Strgar. It just made sense. As a woman-owned B Corporation, Good Clean Love fits right in with the...
“Most people are mirrors, reflecting the moods and emotions of the times; few are windows, bringing light to bear on the dark corners where troubles fester. The whole purpose of education is to turn mirrors into windows.” Sydney Harris
Growing into our sexual selves is a lifelong process, much like growing up in general. But because we don’t have a lot of language for our sexual life, we somehow...
Walking into your bedroom should make your heart rate slow down. It should be the place where you sigh deeply and your whole body relaxes. The bedroom is your nest. A singular space that both regenerates you on a cellular level every night as you sleep and provides the environment and impetus for physical intimacy. As the place where we love deeply, procreate our next generation and regenerate...
I spent last weekend with hundreds of new mothers and their babies at the Mommycon Chicago conference. I was invited to talk about Sex that Works, my new book about sex after pregnancy and the intimacy problems involved. I was greeted by over 50 mothers and just about as many babies. The conference was geared towards the practice of attachment parenting, an ancient practice the world over where...
“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” -Alan Watts
I can’t get this film out of my head. Watching it at 35,000 feet with the melting ice caps continually under my windows view has cemented this new altered reality into my head. Before the Flood, the new release by Leonardo DiCaprio in cooperation with National Geographic should be the...
Didn’t have the Valentine’s Day you hoped for? Here’s 3 Rules for not making it worse.
Post Valentine’s Day can sometimes be a rocky relational transition. When we don’t feel seen or appreciated in the ways we hoped for, it is easy to slip into behaviors that silently undermine all the heartfelt efforts that we have worked at for so long. So here are a few practices that have helped me time and...
There are more breakups associated with Valentine’s Day than any other holiday – mostly because all of our perceived slights and disappointments that happen every day are on full display on that day.
“The way you make love is the way God will be with you.” Rumi
One of the great mysteries in life is the way in which our sexual encounters, especially the most memorable and passionate ones, live outside of normal space and time. It’s almost as if time stands still and bends itself around the encounter. Minutes that fly by in a moment seem to last hours and hours. It is in fact this space that we...
