The V-Word

After we posted “Relaxing: The ‘Big Lebowski’ Approach,” we got an email from a man named Gary Silvia. He introduced himself as a Reverend in the Church of the Latter-Day Dude, and said he thought Making Love Sustainable readers might be interested in knowing more about Dudeism and its relaxed approach to living.

We agreed, and we emailed Reverend Silvia some questions asking more about Dudeism...

“If we could heal only one thing in the human experience and it was our relationship to our sexual selves, everything else would heal as a consequence.” -Wendy Strgar

Sex is at the beginning and end of who we are. Indeed, we are each the most profound products of the sexual act, and the more we learn about our fragile, erotic selves, the more obvious it is that this is the center around which...

“Patience and persistence have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.  A little knowledge that acts is worth infinitely more than much knowledge that is idle.” -John Quincy Adams

Most of the time when we begin a project, we have no real idea of where it is going to take us or if we will ever truly get across the finish line that we set at the beginning. So it...

It’s difficult to relax on the Internet, especially social media — Twitter and Facebook are like open mics where everyone is simultaneously speaking their opinions about everything, all the time. The pressure to have an opinion and to share it in new, cleverer and louder ways can be quickly exhausting. I find myself forgetting what I really care about, losing track of my own feelings, and becoming...

I get that it’s normal for guys to masturbate, but is it normal for him to be watching porn while he does it? Should I be worried? -Worried Wife

Dear Worried Wife,

I’m glad you realize that it’s normal for guys to masturbate, because it is. In fact, as a guy, I’d say that the one thing that unites us is the fact that we pretty much all masturbate. While the number of timesduring a day may differ...

“Intuitively, we know that the best stuff in life isn’t stuff at all, and that relationships, experiences and meaningful work are the staples of a happy life.” -Graham Hill

Last week on Mother’s Day when I was practicing with my new empty nest, I gave myself the long overdue gift of cleaning out my closet. I began early in the morning, optimistically believing I would be done by brunch when I was...

Dear A,

My boyfriend masturbates all the time, even when we have sex regularly. Is that okay?

Signed,

Worried Girlfriend

Dear Worried,

Your boyfriend’s drive to masturbate frequently, added to the sex you’re having regularly, is actually a GOOD thing. A large-scale scientific studyjust recently released out of The National Cancer Institute followed 30,000 men for 8 years and discovered that when...

As part of Making Love Sustainable’s relaunch, we’re launching three new columns: two advice columns, ‘Ask Her Anything’ and ‘Ask Him Anything’, and a new health focused column, ‘Naked Health’.

Welcome to Making Love Sustainable’s new column, ‘Naked Health’- your resource for the latest information on sexual health and wellness. While the rest of our blog delves deeply into the emotional aspects...

As part of Making Love Sustainable’s relaunch, we’re launching three new columns: two advice columns, ‘Ask Her Anything’ and ‘Ask Him Anything’, and a new health focused column, ‘Naked Health‘.

Got a love, sex, relationships or marriage question that you need answered? The traditional channels just not cutting it for you? That’s where our newest advice columns come in!

Entitled Ask Her Anything...