The V-Word

Nourish your relationship with the wisdom of loveology. Whet your appetite with Wendy’s disarmingly practical advice to create the healthy intimacy you crave. Satisfy your curiosity and find answers to your questions about how love and intimacy feed each other and create the foundation for authentic and sustainable loving relationships. Each week, explore the ecology of love through interviews...

 “Real listening is a willingness to let the other person change you.” -Phillip Shepherd

 

I still remember the summer afternoon I met my designer, Benjamin, who has made my work beautiful and real since 2010. He had never answered a Craigslist ad before, but some kind of synchronicity occurred and he called me to set up a meeting, as he was coming down from Portland to sign up another much larger...

The Opening Dooris a joyful refocusing on love as the transformative force of life. The show features interviews with thought-leaders including renowned sex/relationship therapists, best-selling authors, and scientific and entrepreneurial innovators. Each week we bring you a lively blend of compelling conversation, practical advice and deep insights to enhance the quality of your relationships and...

“So many fail because they don’t get started – they don’t go.  They don’t overcome inertia.  They don’t begin.”  -W. Clement Stone

 

Starting things is hard. It explains why so many great ideas go unrealized. To begin, you have to become comfortable with the discomfort of the unknown, to embrace the truth that even the best laid plans often don’t hold up to the uncertainty and chaos that...

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”-Buddha

 

Our first response to rejection of any kind is usually shame. It comes out looking like anger and a story of betrayal. It...

I have been feeling the resurrection myth coming to life lately. Since my father’s passing, my relationship to him has completely transformed. There is a kindness and gentleness that has not been there in decades. I discovered a box of old photos in his home when I was cleaning it out that he had never shared with me from his childhood. It is easy to get lost in the black and white images of him...

This Monday is the 30^thanniversary of my marriage to the guy I fell for when I was 19 years old. I wept when I came across the first published piece I ever wrote among my father’s photos and memorabilia when I was cleaning out his home after his death. This was a reader’s write column for the sun magazine, for which I won a year’s subscription. It was 1988, the year our first child was born and I...

Lately, I am having to do a lot of practice with going through the motions of my Positivity work. Meditation, usually a deep solace, is hard to stay focused. I drift into thoughts and concerns for half my time and then awaken to what I have missed. Likewise, with my exercise routines, my clogged head feels like it is dead weight on a body that is weak. My emotions and thoughts pull me back over...

"The voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes. " - Marcel ProustIt is odd how we take for granted the most basic of our sensory capacities until life teaches us otherwise. Losing our sight is one that is common to most of us as we age. Although both my parents wore corrective lenses, I boasted perfect vision until suddenly, as I approached 50, small print became illegible.