‘There is something in every one of you that waits and listens for the sound of the genuine in yourself.’ -Howard Thurman

Perhaps the most challenging listening that we attempt in this life is learning to listen to ourselves. We know our inner voice well in childhood, but often lose touch with it as the opinions of others dominate our life in adolescence. It is tragic really, how we are trained to...

Question:
My wife used to love sex, but we had a baby six months ago, and she has since lost all interest. Will her sex drive ever come back?

Answer:
The good news is that you can help her find her sexual interest. But don’t look in her diaper bag… it’s not there. It’s not unusual for a new mom to feel like her body and the focus of her attention belongs solely to the baby. Additionally, free time...

“Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand.” Karl Menninger

I have been talking a lot about listening lately, hence, I have been wondering how to listen more and talk less. For any of you who know me, you know this as a life quest. Then as life would have it, I was presented with another chance to learn how. My...

“I felt it shelter to speak to you.” -Emily Dickinson

I am not sure if there is a more challenging aspect of relating than communicating. It is the currency of all relationships, personal and professional, and reflects us in the world more deeply than any other part of who we are. Professionally, it is not uncommon for less qualified applicants to get a job over more qualified competitors based...

I often tell people that the sexiest part of their body is their brain. Usually I am trying to get them to understand the connection between their olfactory system and the limbic part of the brain where memory, emotion and sexuality are...

Wind power is one of the fastest growing alternative energy sources available. What could be cleaner than capturing the power of the moving air and turning it into energy?

“Masturbation is our first and natural form of sexual activity and if that’s inhibited or damaged, then we suffer for the rest of our lives.” -Betty Dodson

I had met Betty several times over the years while building my business. She is an icon among the sex therapist crowd, and even in much mainstream media her name and work over the last four decades is synonymous with the feminist sexual...

‘Physics is to mathematics as sex is to masturbation’ -Richard Feynman

Learning how to love is a complex set of equations. Knowing how to love is no more an inborn skill than being able to compute algebraic equations. Physical loving turns these basic math facts into the complex calculations which is the glue of the physical universe. Seen in this light, masturbation is like learning our basic...

‘Remember that the truth is in the details�Of course the devil’s there, too–everyone says so–but maybe truth and the devil are words for the same thing.’ -Stephen King

I have never been a detail-oriented person. I have always preferred big picture thinking and have enjoyed relishing visions of possibility without really grasping the zillions of details that would take me there. My husband...

Sometimes we give up one kind of balance for another. Our work lives take over our personal life, new families take over old exercise routines, and sometimes our love life can take over all of it. Losing our balance over love can be fun. Actually that “in love, out of control craziness” of deep connection can be like a drug, blurring our vision so that the world has a rosy hue and commitments to...

“Mother’s love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved. ” ~Erich Fromm
I have been a mother for most of my adult life. I often say that my children are my one great work in this life. Although I take precautions to not live life vicariously, I know that my life is more often a reflection of them than it is of me on many days. Whether through text messages, or my own internal...

Sometimes we give up one kind of balance for another. Our work lives take over our personal life, new families take over old exercise routines, and sometimes our love life can take over all of it. Losing our balance over love can be fun. Actually that “in love, out of control craziness” of deep connection can be like a drug, blurring our vision so that the world has a rosy hue and commitments to...