Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

Here is a lesson that I learned again about keeping love sustainable in life. Most of the arguments that break a relationship exist for the life of the relationship. The big three that most of us deal with in some form or another are money, sex and family. In addition there are qualities of a relationship that often create real conflict as well- mutual respect, need for personal space,...

I was happy to learn that the Sun is here to stay in all its radiance for another 5 billion years. That even as we are unsure about the land formations that will remain and how we will ensure enough drinking water for the population, I feel somehow reassured to know that the sun will rise and set as it always has, reminding us that there is always another day to try again.

The heat and power that...

What is that “mood” thing anyway? I know it is in me somewhere- this secret passage that sometimes feels like a dark and narrow hallway with no windows or air and other times is like throwing open huge windows to a beautiful summer morning. Finding this space, where I am more in my body than in my mind is a journey. It is as unpredictable and changeable as I am. But I have been paying attention...

Nothing teaches us as much about the brevity of this life as it’s ending. This weekend our community witnessed a boy in my daughter’s graduating high school class take his life. This occurred on the same day that a man recently married to a single mom I had known for years, fell to his untimely death. There are no words that express the loss, shock, sadness, anger, disbelief that course through...

Since I began writing a blog on Sustainable Love, I have deliberately kept my writing separate from my company work of producing all natural love products. People often ask me what came first, my loveology writing or my love products- Another chicken and egg story, they both inspired and invented each other. More and more in this small west coast city where I live, my teaching and my products are...

Just home from the Green Festival in Chicago. A remarkable first time event with an attendance of over 30000 people. I haven’t been back in the Midwest in over 10 years and was happily reminded of the deep civility and down to earth polite manners that dominates the city. Bringing all natural love products and teaching about sustainable love relationships reminded me again of the other part of...

Today the world feels overcome with violence. Mass shootings in a college classroom capture the front page of newspapers all over the country. The questions of how and why and what is to be done weigh heavily. Senseless violence. The report is followed on NPR by a story about Marines who went on a rampage after their buddy was killed by a bomb. They murdered a small village of 24. The killers in...