Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

Life has been smacking me in the face lately- this description borrowed from my fifteen year old son couldn’t be more accurate. The love business has been feeling like slogging through three feet of mud, and most often when asked a question the only response that feels true is “I don’t know.” Sleep is hard to find and harder still to stay in. Hungry for chocolate and peace…. Sometimes the day to...

Researchers around the world are looking for the keys to sexual functioning and some recent studies from the University of Amsterdam are demonstrating that contrary to popular belief, arousal is not a product of desire, but rather a result of it.

Neurobiologists have found that in many areas of life, including sexual response, the brain regions required to perform a specific act are ablaze prior...

Always happy to see signs of reason returning to the headlines of our newspapers- today the LA Times reported five states: Wisconsin, Connecticut, Rhode Island, Montana and New Jersey, which despite the dwindling coffers of public funding have turned down the Just Say No to Sex money being doled out to only teach abstinence. Not only does the money carry the obligation to forgo any real education...

They feel different, sex and love…but together they are the best. You know it when it is love, the act penetrates deeply to center, something uncovered, released and energy connecting. It transforms energy through flesh, or maybe flesh to energy. Hard to say at that moment.

By itself, sexual acts take us far out of our ordinary mind. They are a departure from the daily in the most visceral of...

There are days I long to look up and see an opening in the sky that would remind me of the truth about life. I work to see and to believe that life is good and our inclination to love is always one to be trusted. However, sometimes love and trust are not companions — affairs happen, partners are left, love goes unrequited, and accidents of the heart happen as frequently as they do with dishes.

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I once read an analogy of human connection which described successful intimate bonds in terms of moisture. In this description they discussed how when your heart feels dry and brittle it is hard for it to bond to anyone else. Moisture happens in our heart when we allow ourselves to feel.

Certainly this metaphor can be extended without much imagination to the intimacy problems that exist for so...

Rejection of any kind can really ruin a day. For some people it can ruin a week or more. It happened to me today when I was terminated on a blogger site. Most rejections whether they happen in personal or work situations press the same buttons- they strike all the weak links in the personality we have built, stretching thin all the places of low self esteem which we patch over each time it...

Have you ever noticed the power of letting go? The freedom in surrender, when you give over your cravings and desires to how it is. Then suddenly the situation is different and possibilities that weren’t there a minute ago are opening up everywhere. I remember the hunger for a boyfriend that held me for years. A longing that filled me with sad songs and led me continuously to the wrong guys. I...